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The Feel Good Jar - Claire Brummell, Feminine 1st

My confession about the feel good jar…

The Feel Good Jar - Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stThis time last year, I shared a video with you about how to feel more feminine in 2013, and in I talked to you about the concept of the feel good jar.

The feel good jar is basically a jar which sits somewhere prominent in your home and when something that you’re grateful for, or want to celebrate, or just simply makes you feel good happens, you write it on a little note and put it into the feel good jar.

Throughout the year the notes stack up, and then at the end of the year (or the beginning of the next) you get to open up the jar, and read, relive and enjoy all of the best moments from the previous year.

So I wanted to share with you today my experience of the feel good jar over the last year…including a confession which actually turned out to be very revealing…

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So how did my feel good jar experiment work out?

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Stay Fabulous,

Claire x

How often do you celebrate?

How often do you celebrate?I love to celebrate.

In fact, any opportunity to celebrate and I’m in.

The Christmas decorations go up in November.

I can usually get my birthday celebrations to stretch to at least 3 weeks connecting with various friends and relatives.

…and if it’s someone else’s birthday I’ll do whatever I can to make them feel like the most special person in the world…and to encourage them to celebrate how awesome they are.

But the thing with celebrations is that often we need something to remind us to celebrate.

A date in the diary which prompts us to celebrate how great we are, to tell our lover how we feel about them, to do something special for our family and friends.

So why is this?

Well, these days it seems like the only socially acceptable time to celebrate is when you have a reason, or an excuse.

Heaven forbid you celebrate for no reason, just because you can!

It’s more acceptable to be self deprecating, to focus on what isn’t working, rather than what could be celebrated.

Well, the challenge with this is because we don’t take the time to celebrate, we often don’t realise how many things we have to celebrate about.

We don’t realise how lucky we are, how much we have to be grateful for, or how amazing we are.

When we come from a place of gratitude and give ourselves permission to celebrate, it’s amazing the difference it makes to us and those around us. We start to see the celebrations more than the problems, and notice the gifts rather than the challenges.

So today I want to remind you of all the different things that you can celebrate

Celebrate you and your achievements

When was the last time that you celebrated you, without it being your birthday? Do you ever take a moment to just celebrate how smart / kind / compassionate, beautiful / loving / downright fricking awesome you are? Do you ever stop and remind yourself how great you are? Do you know it? Do you see it? Do you believe it?

I can guarantee that no matter who you are, there is someone in the world who admires you, thinks you’re great, is inspired by you, loves you or wishes they could be like you in some way. So if you can’t see how great you are, take a moment to look at yourself through their eyes. See what they see, feel how they feel, appreciate all the great things about you that they appreciate.

Celebrate the small things

Often when people think about celebrating they think it has to be something huge. They believe they have to have made a million, won a nobel prize, or have flown around the world in a hot air balloon for it to qualify.

The funny thing is that when you take the time to celebrate the small things, you’ll notice more of them…and when you notice more of the small things…you’ll start to notice more of the bigger things too.

Celebrate with a Feel Good JarAt the beginning of this year I shared with you about my “Feel Good Jar”…a jar kept
by the side of my bed that when something good happens, something I want to acknowledge or celebrate I write it on a note and pop it inside. So at the end of the year, I can go back and re-live all of the fantastic celebrations from this year. What’s amazing about doing this is that the more you start looking for the things to celebrate, the more you find. It’s not even the end of March yet, but my jar is almost full already (I need to find a bigger jar!)

In the jar I’ve got notes about all kinds of things…from receiving some surprise cupcakes in the mail to taking the time to nurture myself with a bubble bath or doing my nails. I’ve got notes about when my amazing partner said something that made me smile, or when I got to connect with a friend I haven’t spoken to in a long time.

The more I put in the jar…the more I find to put in the jar!

So when you’re looking for something to celebrate, celebrate the big AND the small!

Celebrate other people’s stuff

These days, people aren’t very good at celebrating when good things happen to other people. People are quick to bring others down, complain about them, or talk about them behind their back, but their more likely to roll their eyes and grimace when something great happens for them than sincerely pat them on the back and celebrate with them.

Over the years I’ve seen a lot of singles who are looking for a relationship complaining when they see a couple in love, I’ve heard people make unkind remarks when someone else is successful and I’ve seen people say that someone is ‘too good looking’, ‘too wealthy’ or even ‘too nice’!

What people don’t realise about this is that our brains notice this behaviour, and take a mental note of it. If we are quick to pull someone down when something goes well for them, then subconsciously we’re afraid that if things go well for us that the same will happen to us.

So if we get into the habit of celebrating other people, then we encourage them to celebrate our successes in return…

…and we won’t worry as much that people will pull us down if we have something to celebrate too.

How can I celebrate?

The possible ways to celebrate are endless!

The question you need to ask yourself is simple: How would you like to celebrate?

You could send a card, an email or a facebook message. You could create your own feel good jar and pop notes in there to acknowledge your celebrations. You could simply take a couple of minutes in the morning to acknowledge your celebration to yourself out loud in the mirror. You could play your favourite song, sing at the top of your voice and dance around when nobody can see you. You could give someone you love a big hug. You could just take a moment to stop, breathe and have a little internal celebration. You could even start a celebration journal to write in every evening.

So I invite you this week to find at least 3 things every single day to celebrate. They can be big, they can be small, they can seem as silly as you like… but make the time to celebrate them.

…and if you’d like a suggestion to start with, celebrate taking the time to read this article as it will make a huge difference to you and the people around you if you learn to celebrate that little bit more.

Stay Fabulous!

Claire x

P.S. Remember to celebrate today! 🙂