This week’s Thursday Thought:
A friend is the person with whom you can be completely, unreservedly, unapologetically yourself & know you will always be accepted
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14. Reach out, even when you don’t want to – I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve learned that a friend was going through a tough time and when I’ve asked why they didn’t call they’ve said “I didn’t want to be a bother” or words to that effect. The most important thing to remember is that your sisters WANT to be there for you…not when you’ve started to get it together, or begun to figure it out. When it’s at it’s worst. When you need the most support. When you can’t make sense of it. When you want to cry / shout / scream. When you feel numb. It’s at those times that it’s hardest to reach out…and it’s at those times that it’s most important to do so. The deepest connections I have with the women in my life are with the ones who are my first call when I’m in a puddle on the floor…and for whom I am the same for them in return.
15. Be there when they reach out – When one of them reaches out a hand to you…be there to take it. Even if you can’t speak at that precise moment, let them know you’re here for them, that you want to speak to them and give them your full attention and arrange a time when you can speak. If you’re there for them when they need you, they want to be there for you when you need them even more.
16. Gently, and with compassion, be prepared to challenge your sisters – Sisters are your mirrors. They are the ones who will show you your reflection, in all it’s full Technicolor glory, and with love they will challenge you to see things that you might not want to, to see things from a different perspective. Be prepared to gently and respectfully challenge their perspectives if it feels right to do so. Not in a “Your wrong!! It’s this way!” kind of approach, but in a “I’m curious, have you considered this point of view?” way. We’re in this to grow together, being able to offer alternative ideas is how we grow.
17. Be open to help in a different way – It’s important to ask for what you want and need…it’s also OK to trust when it shows up in a different form. Sometimes your sisters will do things in a way that in the moment feels uncomfortable, but done with love and compassion can really help. I had a sister who we joked like to go into ‘probe mode’…when I was sharing, sometimes I wasn’t even aware that there was something underneath until she began with the probing questions. At the time, it felt uncomfortable, but I trusted her and knew it was all being done with love….and it always helped me in a way I couldn’t have anticipated.
18. Take down your defences – We’ve got very used to many women in life being our competition, and being ready to defend ourselves should someone say something we feel is an attack. In sisterhood remember that these women are on your side. They are there with you, to support you. There’s no need to have the battlements armed.
19. Trust – Trust. Trust that these women want to be in this with you. Trust that they want the best for you. Trust that they always have your best interests at heart. Trust that they are right there behind you, in your corner. Trust that they are doing the best they can, and that they know that you are too.
20. Say the thing you don’t want to say – I can’t count the number of times I’ve found myself talking to a soul sister, or soul sisters and I’ve heard myself say “I really don’t want to say this…so I know this is what I need to say”. The stuff we try and deny…the stuff we don’t want to share is the stuff that we often NEED to share. Because we have a belief, an idea, a story around it that sharing it can dispel. If you’re open about the fact that it’s difficult for you, it allows your sisters to be even more kind and gentle with you while you’re having the courage to share it.
21. Ask Questions – Be curious about your sisters, ask questions to learn more about them…take an interest. When you want to challenge, do it by asking a question that will get them to consider a different point of view. Ask them what they want. Ask them how you can support them. Ask them questions that will help them go deeper, and understand themselves better.
22. Be prepared to set boundaries if you need them – Sisterhood is about trust…and being able to say “This is my boundary, I’m asking you not to cross it” and trusting that they will respect you for it is incredibly empowering. Now I’m going to put a little caveat in here…be sure when setting boundaries you’re doing it with your best interests in mind and heart…rather than doing it to protect yourself from being ‘too vulnerable’ or going ‘too deep’. You need to feel comfortable in asking for what you need…but also be open to your sisters questioning if it really is what’s best for you, and allow yourself to respond honestly.
23. Be Gentle and compassionate – Be gentle with yourself and with your sisters…sisterhood is a very vulnerable place to be, and being gentle can make it so much easier. Compassion for yourself and your sisters will allow you to open even further, trust even more and deepen the connections between you.
24. Spend time together just being – Spend time with these women just enjoying yourselves and being. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught in a pattern of the ‘deep stuff’ with your sisters…where you’re always dealing with challenges or working through something…and it’s just as important to make regular dates to go out for a meal together, go and pamper yourselves or just have a girly movie night with a bowl of popcorn!
25. Go First – I know I mentioned this in the article about finding the women who will become your soul sisters, but it isn’t something you do once and it’s done…it’s a choice to continue going first. If you go first, and go deep you give them permission to do the same. You create the space, you set the bar, you open up the conversation and therefore allow the connection to go deeper. In doing so you open yourself up to a depth relationship that otherwise wouldn’t have been open to you. You create the depth of relationship you want, by having the courage to share deeply yourself first.
It will connect you to what it means to be a woman in a way you never realised possible.
Your concept of friendship increases in breadth and depth…the possibilities are endless, and you begin to understand that true friendship is limitless.
Your soul sisters will become your cheerleaders, our safety net, your guides, your teachers, your sages, your mirrors, your soul mates, your family and your sanctuary.
My soul sisters are a vital part of my life and I’m grateful for them every single day.
They make life easier, they make life more enjoyable.
They will hold a special place in your heart that cannot be filled by anyone or anything else, and I wish for you to create these amazing, life altering relationships for yourself.
The last couple of weeks we’ve been talking about sisterhood and the importance, value and power of really deep, mutually fulfilling relationships with other women.
So you know you want to create sisterhood with women in your life, and you’ve found the women with whom you want to develop a deeper connection and relationship…so the next question is, “How do you create sisterhood?”
What does sisterhood look like? How does it grow and develop?
What makes women who are soul sisters different? What to they do differently? What do they say differently? How do they behave differently?
The path to sisterhood is simple…but not always easy.
To create sisterhood with other women means removing any and all masks, letting down your barriers, and opening your heart to another woman with no conditions. Accepting everything you are, being everything you are, showing everything you are and allowing them to be everything they are too.
Oh is that all? No Problem!
The more of the real, whole you that you allow them to see, the deeper the connection will be.
So what does that really mean? What does it look like in your real life, day-to-day interactions?
Well I’ve identified 25 ways to help you to create sisterhood with the women in your life, and today I want to share the first of these with you:
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So I’ll leave you with a couple of questions to consider…how do you create sisterhood? What are your thoughts on the first 13 ways to create sisterhood? Do you have any questions about sisterhood? I’d love to hear your thoughts, so please drop me an email Ambien Sale Online Cheap and let me know what you think.
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We’ve all had those times.
The ones where everything seems to hit all at once.
Where just as you begin to catch your breath and find your feet, the next wave hits you, then the next, then the next, then the next.
Well the last month or two have been a bit like that for me…there have been a plethora of events and situations that have hit one after the other.
I’m sure sometime soon I’ll share more about what’s been happening, but to give you an idea included in this time period has been major surgery for my Mum, my Grandmother spending two weeks (and still counting at time of writing) in hospital and one of my dearest friends going in for yet another surgery which has not been a smooth as we would have hoped.
So over the last couple of months there have been highs, there have been a lot of lows, there have been intense emotions and there have been moments of numbness.
It’s at times like this that you need support.
I’ll be the first to admit that there have been times that I’ve been running around trying to help everyone else out and I’ve committed the cardinal sin of losing focus on my own self-care.
(Side note…this lack of self-care has now been addressed and a much more calm and peaceful Claire has emerged…balance is being restored gradually…)
But in addition to self-care times like this are the times that you need good friends.
…in fact, it’s not just good friends you need, it’s great friends.
Friends who know you, your heart and soul so well that they instinctively give you exactly what you need.
…and over this slightly challenging period of time that I’ve been experiencing I’ve identified the 6 types of friend that every woman needs to help get her through, and today I want to share them with you:
The beauty of these 6 types of friends is that they’re not mutually exclusive, but they also can be. You can have 6 different people who fill each of the 6 roles, or you can have one person who covers them all.
I’m lucky…I have a number of friends who cover more than one of these types, and some who cover them all.
Most importantly I have a core of very close people, my soul family, who know me, love me and accept me, completely unconditionally, exactly as I am. I wish for you to find and cultivate friendships like these in your life.
…and how do you find friends like this? It’s simple. You be a friend like this.
It doesn’t mean that everyone you meet will instantly become this kind of friend, but it does mean that when you meet the ones who could…you’ll create an instantaneous, deep and mutually fulfilling connection…the likes of which you can’t imagine until you’ve experienced it firsthand.
Oh, and the last thing to mention? Having these types of friends is great. But they can only do their thang if you reach out and let them.
So being this kind of friend is important. Equally important is allowing these amazing people to be this kind of friend to you.
Let them know you need their support.
…and then allow yourself to receive, and show your gratitude when you do.
Friends like this are worth their weight in gold….and I’m lucky enough to have my very own personal goldrush. I hope you are too…
…and today I’m dedicating this article to the phenomenal friends in my life. I love each and every one of your deeply, from the bottom of my heart.
Today’s Fabulous Friday Female is the lovely Jessica Libbey…because this week she has touched my life in a very special way.
Jessica believes that in order to show up and truly shine in your business and your life, you must be willing to embrace ALL parts of you. That is what enables you to show up authentically as the beautiful, whole and complete being you truly are, inside and out.
She passionately supports women to go from hiding in the shadows to really showing up and shining in their full truth and wholeness, by embracing all parts of themselves because ALL of you matters!
Jess loves creating a safe space for women to open up and share their real selves, supporting them in revealing the parts they’ve been hiding, while also challenging them to step out of the familiar… because that’s where the MAGIC of liberation happens.
You see, Jess knows what it’s like to live as if you’re hiding… staying hidden from the things that scare you and avoiding allowing yourself to be truly seen and heard because deep down, you believe you won’t be accepted or loved if people knew who you REALLY are.
She has been there. For most of her life, she was afraid to reveal the true ‘Jess’. After graduating college, She got a job in the corporate world and did her best to blend in and do what she was told….and she was really good at it, too.
After a couple of years, she received a wake-up call when her position in the company was cut in a mass layoff, and she was pushed out into the world to fend for herself!
Rather than jump back into the corporate world where she felt like a small fish in a huge pond, Jess’s gut told her there was a different path for her. And in order to discover where that path led, she decided something had to change.
She realized that blending in and hiding had gotten her nowhere. She wasn’t happy. And it continued to get her nowhere as she tried to build her own coaching practice. Business was stagnant. Her relationships were surface level and unfulfilling. And her life just felt “blah”.
So, Jess began to step out of her comfort zone. AND she got support so that she felt safe enough to take risks, feel her discomfort and allow herself to be seen and heard in ways she never thought she could.
As a result, Jessica now loves to support women on their journeys of transformation so that they too can fully show up, share their truth and SHINE.
On her website she uses the words “I’m totally here for you”…and I know from personal experience that is true.
You see Jessica and I are both part of a community of women called “Tribal Truth”…and although we’ve never met (as she leads the tribe in San Francisco and I lead the tribe here in London), Jess has provided so much love, support and inspiration to me in the short time that we’ve known each other.
For me, it shows the power of a real community when two people from different continents can connect and share at such a deep level without ever having met.
Just this week when I was facing a challenge that I didn’t know quite how to overcome, Jess took the time to reach out to me, and hold space for me to share what was going on and supported me so beautifully through it. She is a true example of a feminine leader and I feel lucky to be able call her my friend.
So I would like for you to join me today in acknowledging and celebrating Jessica, both for the work that she does and for just being an amazing women who helps others.
…and I encourage anyone who has the opportunity to spend some time with Jessica to do so, she is a beautiful woman, inside and out and she genuinely touches people’s lives. So if you’re in the San Francisco area (or even if you’re not!) be sure to get in touch with her…you’ll be glad you did!
As you know, I would love to acknowledge, honour and celebrate the women who have inspired you as well. So if there is someone that you believe should feature as a Fabulous Friday Female, then send me an email (Get Ambien Prescription Online) with 3 simple details:
So help me to share with all of our lovely ladies the real women who inspire YOU.
…and remember, as always, to Stay Fabulous too!
On Monday we talked about how important it is to be your own best friend. So the question now is…how do you do that?
Well, to make it easy for you I’ve created 10 simple rules to follow in order to make yourself your bestist friend ever!
So there you have it, 10 simple and easy rules for being your own best friend.
What are YOU going to do differently to befriend yourself and make yourself the bestist friend you could imagine?
Best friends are amazing.
They are your biggest cheerleaders.
They will tell you if you’ve got lipstick on your teeth.
They will be there to support you if your heart gets broken.
They know instinctively whether the situation at hand requires a bar of chocolate, a large glass of wine or a trip to the nearest shoe store.
They immediately provide you with either a bar of chocolate, a large glass of wine or a trip to the nearest shoe store…or all of the above.
You know that they ALWAYS have your back.
You know that you can call them anytime.
You know that they will know exactly what to say.
They always have your best interests at heart.
Every woman should have someone like this in her life.
I am truly blessed, because I have several incredible women in my life who tick most, if not all of these boxes.
I am also lucky enough to have a couple of women around me who tick all of these boxes and so many more as well…and one very special woman who is as close as you can get to family without blood ties.
We all know how to be this kind of friend.
Most of us ARE this kind of friend to at least one other person.
We know what support another woman needs.
We know how to read their words and body language.
We can tell if they need a hug or to vent…or a combination of the two.
We listen when they need to talk.
We encourage them.
We support them.
We cheer them on.
We give them hugs.
We laugh with them.
We cry with them.
We share their highs…and their lows.
We like to make them laugh.
We want to see them happy.
We love them unconditionally.
We know how to do be this kind of friend…and we know how much it means to have someone in your life that will do this for us.
But the question I want to ask you is…are you this kind of friend to yourself?
Because you spend more time with yourself than you do with any other person on the planet (no matter how close your friendship is!)
You hear your own words more than anyone else.
So what words do you use about yourself?
Are you your biggest cheerleader? …or your biggest critic?
In my experience, more women fall into the second category than the first.
How often do you say things like this to yourself?
“I really shouldn’t have done that”
“I need to lose weight”
“That was stupid”
“I should have done more…”
“I should have done that quicker”
“I really don’t like my legs / bum / stomach etc”
“I feel fat today”
“What’s wrong with me?”
“I can’t do that?”
You can have the best friend in the world who spends a few hours a week telling you how great you are….but if you spend the rest of the time criticizing yourself…which do you think will have the biggest impact?
So I would like to invite you to choose to become your own best friend, from this point forward. There’s no better time to start.
That way, no matter where you are or what you’re doing, you’ll always have your best friend there cheering you on.
Come back on Wednesday to discover the 10 rules for being your own best friend…you won’t want to miss it!