This week’s Thursday Thought:
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage…and when the ‘someone’ is yourself it gives you more than you can possibly imagine
Women these days tend to spend a lot of time in their heads.
We have so much to do and we are trying to wear so many different hats that we end up go to our heads to try and make sense of it all and keep a handle on things, but there’s so much going on that we tend to stay there.
It’s important to be conscious of the reason we end up in our heads.
We don’t arrive there naturally; it’s the place we end up when we are coming from a place of fear, insecurity, lack or stress.
Now, call me crazy but in my experience the holiday season can often bring with it a fair share of stress.
Between buying and wrapping Christmas presents, writing cards, shopping for food, cooking more Turkey than is humanly possible to eat (unless you’re a veggie like me…in which case replace Turkey with roast potatoes), visiting family and friends, Christmas parties, the pressure of what to do New Year’s Eve…the list goes on.
In fact, here in the UK 59% of women suffer high stress levels in the week before Christmas…which is also the worst week for sleep deprivation.
Generally speaking, under stress the feminine moves from heart to head and the masculine moves from heart to the genital area…which is why we respond so differently to stressful situations…the key to finding the solutions is often to figure out how to come back to the heart.
There is a place for the head, we need both head and heart to get by in life, but when the head gets into overwhelm it stops being effective and ends up caught in unproductive and often self-destructive loops that get you nowhere and drive you crazy.
But when you get into the heart the noise gets quieter, the merry-go-round stops spinning and you get to just feel.
Often when we feel into a situation we get connected back to our intuition, which will guide us in the right direction compared with our overwhelmed minds.
To be honest, anything that really brings you back to your feminine will bring you out of your head and into your heart as that’s where the feminine naturally lives.
So the question is ‘what makes YOU feel more feminine’…because if you’re FEELING feminine…you’re already in your heart.
And this is my Christmas gift to you…the ability to quickly and effortlessly move from your head to your heart, whenever you wish to.
Merry Christmas….remember to stay fabulous when moving from your head to your heart!
When I first saw this routine performed I was amazed by the intricacy of the movement, the synchronicity and the precise placement of every single hand.
But my appreciation of the movement was dwarfed by the inspiration that these women brought to me knowing that every single one of the performers is deaf.
They are members of the China Disabled People’s Performing Art Troupe. None of them can hear the music – this makes their choreography a truly incredible achievement. The difficulties and challenges they encountered in training are beyond imagining.
Watch the video to see for yourself:
Because they could not hear the music, there were 6 directors in white cloths helping the dancers to synchronise with the music.
This dance described the legend that Bodhisattva Guan Yin has one thousand hands. Bodhisattva is a Proto-Buddha. She can not become a Buddha because she is still attached to this world. Her vow: If there is still a single drop of tear in this world, I will not become a Buddha.
Being a dancer myself, I know how important it is when you are passionate about dance to be able to express it…and I can only imagine how challenging it is to do this when you can’t hear the music. Each of the dancers in this exquisite routine must have come up against some significant challenges to the belief that they could even do something like this…both from themselves and from others throughout their lives, and I personally am grateful that they stayed true to their passion…as without it they wouldn’t have been able to perform in this way that has inspired me so much.
The ultimate message of this performance can be summed up in the following words from Zhang Jigang, the choreographer who put it all together:
As long as you are kind and there is love in your heart
A thousand hands will naturally come to your aid
As long as you are kind and there is love in your heart
You will reach out with a thousand hands to help others
So today I would like to ask you to join me in acknowledging and celebrating each of the women involved in this routine…both dancers and directors for showing that when you follow your passion, anything is possible.
As you know, I would love to acknowledge, honour and celebrate the women who have inspired you as well. So if there is someone that you believe should feature as a Fabulous Friday Female, then send me an email (email@example.com) with 3 simple details:
Who is your Fabulous Friday Female? (Her name and location in the world)
Why is she a Fabulous Friday Female to YOU? (How do you know her? What does she do? In what way is she inspiring?)
A photo or link to a picture of her online (if there is a reason that you would prefer not to include a photo, just let me know)
So help me to share with all of our lovely ladies the real women who inspire YOU.
…and remember, as always, to Stay Fabulous too!
We can inspire people in so many situations, often when we’re not intending to inspire, that’s when we can inspire the most.
I’m very lucky in that I’m easily inspired. People inspire me every day.
But do you realise how easy it is to inspire others? It only takes a little effort or a little time and you can have a profound affect on someone’s day / month / year / life.
It doesn’t take a lot, just to want to make a difference to someone else. For no other reason than ‘you can’.
In the last couple of months a group of friends and I have been blessed with the opportunity to inspire other people…some friends, some strangers… every time it touches my heart.
If you want an opportunity to act right from the heart, to connect back to what’s important to you, to remember who you are at your core, to just ‘be’ who you are…find an opportunity to inspire someone else.
The funny thing is that we sort of ‘fell’ into doing these things. There was no big master plan to ‘inspire the world’…the opportunities kept coming up and we kept taking them.
It began when a friend of ours was having a bit of a tough time. She had lost someone close to her and was finding it a hard journey.
A lot of her friends weren’t close to her geographically and wanted to offer some support and love.
So we each recorded a short video for her and one of us brought them all together to create a message that genuinely touched her heart:
When a few weeks later another friend posted online that someone very close to him and his family seemed to be losing their battle with cancer they wanted some advice on how to inspire her and lift her spirits in her final days.
Although many of us didn’t know Jan or her family directly, we all came together to show love and support for her with another video compilation that touched her heart and the hearts of the people who were closest to her:
Jan died a short while later, but knowing that we had brought a smile to her and her loved ones in such a difficult time meant so much.
The last video we did was for a very dear friend whose son tragically decided to move on from this life only a few short weeks ago.
He had so many friends around the world who wanted to reach out in support of him to show how much they cared.
Between us we put together this message for him to show that we were all there with him to help him through this difficult time:
In addition to this we’ve taken opportunities to be part of global flashmobs for peace, to give out free hugs and smiles around London, and another video project is in the making for a special little boy who is inspiring others with his journey.
If you would like to get involved in this new video, click here to see how to join us – all you need is a webcam and the desire to make a little boy smile: https://www.facebook.com/groups/459281954104118/
But inspiration doesn’t have to be big…it doesn’t have to change the world. It can be as simple as making another person smile…just by giving them one of your own.
Inspiration is easy…and it changes people. When you’ve inspired someone once, it lights a fire inside you to want to do it again. When you’ve seen that you can affect someone else’s life for the better, you can’t help but want to do it again and again and again.
Inspiration is one of the key aspects of femininity…inspiring others just by being ‘you’ and doing something from the heart is one of the most powerful things that a feminine woman can do.
So the question is – who do you want to inspire today?
On Monday we talked about how important it is to be your own best friend. So the question now is…how do you do that?
Well, to make it easy for you I’ve created 10 simple rules to follow in order to make yourself your bestist friend ever!
So there you have it, 10 simple and easy rules for being your own best friend.
What are YOU going to do differently to befriend yourself and make yourself the bestist friend you could imagine?