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It's not just about increasing your feminine, Claire Brummell, Feminine 1st

It’s not just about increasing our feminine…

It's not just about increasing your feminine, Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stIf you’re someone like me who spent a lot of your life in a very masculine state (possibly without ever knowing it), when you first find out more about the masculine / feminine dynamic it is usual to focus on how you can increase your connection to your femininity.

Over the last few weeks we’ve been going through each of the different aspects of the feminine, looking at each of them individually and finding out more about how to find your unique expression of them.

As we know, your feminine is as unique as you are, so what flow, or inspiration, or intuition means, feels and looks like to you could be completely different to someone else’s.

 

It’s not all about the feminine

The thing is that it’s easy in this situation to make our masculine traits ‘wrong’ or to think that we shouldn’t be using them.

But we all have both masculine and feminine inside us for a reason.

Although we all have one of these towards which we ‘tend’…that doesn’t mean that the other one isn’t important.

It’s about finding the balance that is right for you.

…and when it is about the feminine, are you forgetting something?

But even when we are focusing our feminine we sometimes we forget one of the most important areas.

In fact, I don’t believe I’ve seen an article anywhere about what I’m sharing with you today, when it comes to looking at femininity and masculinity.

But without it, the other aspects will be less effective…or worse, won’t work at all…

If you are already a Feminine 1st Family Member of Bronze Level or above, click here to see the full video

So what else do we need to know about to connect with our feminine?

I would love to share more with you about this and so many incredible topics, and so I’d like to invite you today to join the Feminine 1st Family as a Bronze Member or to become a Free Member to enjoy over 80 Free Videos.

What does Bronze Membership Give Me? Well in addition to all of the features of our Free Membership (including the “First Steps to Femininity” MP3 and over 80 free videos), you will also get access to all future premium Feminine 1st videos for the duration of your membership. You will also have the opportunity to submit requests for topics to be covered or questions to be answered in these weekly videos.

So click here to find out what else do we need to know about to connect with our feminine!

Stay Fabulous,

Claire x

FEMININE - I - INTUITION - Claire Brummell, Feminine 1st

Aspects of the feminine…Do you use your intuition?

FEMININE - I - INTUITION - Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stSo on our journey into the different aspects of the Feminine so far we’ve covered Flow, Emotional Connection, Magic, Inspiration and Nurturing.

Today we get to look at one of the aspects of the feminine that can cause the most confusion, and be the most challenging to understand and embody.

…but it’s also one of the most powerful aspects of the feminine, and the one that can make the biggest difference to your life when you begin to tap into it.

Today we’re looking at the aspect of intuition.

We’ve all heard of female intuition…

Female intuition is a long debated phenomenon, and one that has been the source of much discussion and even some mockery at times.

We’ve all experienced it at times…

..that little feeling that something is (or isn’t) quite right…

…the small voice inside that is whispering in your ear…

…a sense that is nudging you in a certain direction.

So what is female intuition?

There are a lot of different ideas about female intuition and what it is.

Some believe it’s a supernatural ability that women possess.

Some believe it’s the combination of awareness and experience that is processed so quickly our conscious minds aren’t aware of it.

Some believe it’s due to women’s ability to read emotions through facial expression and body language.

But whatever it is, it’s powerful, and it has the ability to transform your life.

So today I want to share with you not only how to tap into your intuition, but also an incredibly important learning that I had around intuition that could change how you view it completely…

If you are already a Feminine 1st Family Member of Bronze Level or above, click here to see the full video

So how can you tap into your feminine intuition?

I would love to share more with you about this and so many incredible topics, and so I’d like to invite you today to join the Feminine 1st Family as a Bronze Member or to become a Free Member to enjoy over 80 Free Videos.

What does Bronze Membership Give Me? Well in addition to all of the features of our Free Membership (including the “First Steps to Femininity” MP3 and over 80 free videos), you will also get access to all future premium Feminine 1st videos for the duration of your membership. You will also have the opportunity to submit requests for topics to be covered or questions to be answered in these weekly videos.

So click here to find out how to tap into your intuition!

Stay Fabulous,

Claire x

FEMININE - N - NURTURING - Claire Brummell, Feminine 1st

Aspects of the feminine…Are you in touch with your nurturing side?…

FEMININE - N - NURTURING - Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stSo we’ve now passed the half way point on our deep dive into the different aspects of the Feminine…

We’ve looked at Flow, Emotional Connection, Magic, and Inspiration…and today we look at the first N…Nurturing.

Nurturing is fundamental to the feminine…but quite often it’s not a quality that a lot of women connect with or relate too..mainly because nurturing has a bit of a bad rap.

When people think about nurturing they tend to bring to mind a fussy mother trying to take over or baby someone…but real nurturing is nothing like that.

We’re born to be nurturing…

As women we’re designed to nurture…our bodies are physically designed for it.

We are built to be able to nurture a few little cells into a full formed human being…which is nothing short of remarkable…and something that a lot of younger women tend to forget.

So if we’re designed to be nurturing…what does it really entail?

So what does nurturing really mean?

As I said, the default image that comes to mind for lots of people is an overbearing mother interfering with her children’s lives…but nurturing has nothing to do with control at all.

It’s all about supporting growth.

It’s about creating the environment in which something, or someone will flourish.

…and there’s one element of nurturing that most people forget about entirely.

So today I want to share with you two different aspects of nurturing, and some suggestions for how you can bring both of them into your life…

 

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So how can you bring BOTH aspects of nurturing into your life?

I would love to share more with you about this and so many incredible topics, and so I’d like to invite you today to join the Feminine 1st Family as a Bronze Member or to become a Free Member to enjoy over 80 Free Videos.

What does Bronze Membership Give Me? Well in addition to all of the features of our Free Membership (including the “First Steps to Femininity” MP3 and over 80 free videos), you will also get access to all future premium Feminine 1st videos for the duration of your membership. You will also have the opportunity to submit requests for topics to be covered or questions to be answered in these weekly videos.

So click here to find out how to bring both aspects of nurturing into your life!

Stay Fabulous,

Claire x

Aspects of the FEMININE - I - Inspiration - Claire Brummell, Feminine 1st

Aspects of the feminine…What’s your inspiration?

Aspects of the FEMININE - I - Inspiration - Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stIt’s time to take another step deeper into the aspects of the feminine…and at the end of this video we’ll be halfway there along our journey!

It’s so important for you as a feminine woman to be able to really get to know the different aspects of the feminine, and to understand what they mean for you personally.

…and I’m really curious to hear how you’ve found the different aspects of the feminine that we’ve spoken about so far, and the difference that getting to know them better is having for you.

So please do get in touch and let me know about your experiences.

What’s your inspiration?

Inspiration, as we know, means different things to different people.

Some find inspiration in other people, others in nature, some in a piece of music, others in a game of sport.

But the great thing is, that although we do it in different ways EVERYONE has the ability to become inspired.

The power of inspiration…

…and when we tap into what inspires us, it’s like connecting into the mains.

We feel lit up.

We feel energised.

We feel alive.

We feel motivated.

It completely changes us.

When it comes to femininity though, there are two different perspectives on inspiration…and as a feminine woman it’s really important to understand them both.

So today I’m going to share with you a little more about them, and how you can bring both of them into your life…

 

If you are already a Feminine 1st Family Member of Bronze Level or above, click here to see the full video

So how can you bring BOTH aspects of inspiration into your life?

I would love to share more with you about this and so many incredible topics, and so I’d like to invite you today to join the Feminine 1st Family as a Bronze Member or to become a Free Member to enjoy over 80 Free Videos.

What does Bronze Membership Give Me? Well in addition to all of the features of our Free Membership (including the “First Steps to Femininity” MP3 and over 80 free videos), you will also get access to all future premium Feminine 1st videos for the duration of your membership. You will also have the opportunity to submit requests for topics to be covered or questions to be answered in these weekly videos.

So click here to find out how to bring both aspects of inspiration into your life!

Stay Fabulous,

Claire x

Aspects of the FEMININE - M - Magic - Claire Brummell, Feminine 1st

Aspects of the feminine…It’s all about magic…

Aspects of the FEMININE - M - Magic - Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stSo our journey deeper into the aspects of the feminine continues this week, with an element that is so often forgotten.

Life as an adult woman can get a bit tough…we have a lot to do, we tend to feel overwhelmed and under pressure.

We have so many hats that we’re trying to wear and so many people that we’re trying to please that it can all get a bit much.

Life get’s very serious and we’re constantly in our heads trying to manage it all and keep on top of everything.

What’s magic got to do with it?

When we get serious…life gets a lot less fun.

Our focus on deadlines, to-do lists and ‘checking things off’ can make things feel a little ‘all work and no play’.

Getting into a masculine mode of ‘do’, achieve, get the result can have a huge affect on how we feel.

It feels heavy, it feels like ‘hard work’…it’s not very enjoyable.

Where’s the magic gone?

When we talk about magic, we’re not talking about Harry Potter, or Siegfried and Roy…

We’re talking about the playfulness that is so fundamental to the feminine.

The lightness, the childlike element that so many of us forget in our adult lives.

So today we look at how we can bring it back…

If you are already a Feminine 1st Family Member of Bronze Level or above, click here to see the full video

So how do you bring the magic back?

I would love to share more with you about this and so many incredible topics, and so I’d like to invite you today to join the Feminine 1st Family as a Bronze Member or to become a Free Member to enjoy over 80 Free Videos.

What does Bronze Membership Give Me? Well in addition to all of the features of our Free Membership (including the “First Steps to Femininity” MP3 and over 80 free videos), you will also get access to all future premium Feminine 1st videos for the duration of your membership. You will also have the opportunity to submit requests for topics to be covered or questions to be answered in these weekly videos.

So click here to find out how to bring the magic back for you!

Stay Fabulous,

Claire x

Aspects of the feminine…diving deeper into emotional connection…

Aspects of the feminine...diving deeper into emotional connection... - Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stSo having begun to deep dive into the aspects of the feminine last week with the F of F.E.M.I.N.I.N.E. looking at flow and how to can introduce the two aspects of flow into our lives…this week we get to look at one of my favourite aspects.

Today we’re looking deeper at the first E of the FEMININE acronym, Emotional Connection.

 

The feminine connection to emotion

Unlike the masculine, whose default position is the mind and logic, the feminine’s default position is that of the heart and emotion.

That’s not to say that either side doesn’t have an appreciation for or an ability to tap into the other’s ‘home base’, it’s just that when all things are equal and we’re being true to our core nature, this is the place that we go to first.

By better understanding the concept of emotional connection and what it means to the feminine, we can begin to explore and understand what it will mean for us personally to embody and express it.  As we know our femininity is unique to us…and so is our expression of emotional connection.

Connecting with your feminine through emotion

When we can begin to really understand and embody emotional connection, we naturally feel more feminine as a result, so today’s video is all about helping you to understand emotional connection better, and giving some suggestions for how you can start to experience more of it.

…and as with the aspect of Flow though, there are actually to elements to the feminine aspect of emotional connection, one of which you may not have considered much up to this point….

If you are already a Feminine 1st Family Member of Bronze Level or above, click here to see the full video

So how can you begin to feel more emotional connection in your life?

I would love to share more with you about this and so many incredible topics, and so I’d like to invite you today to join the Feminine 1st Family as a Bronze Member or to become a Free Member to enjoy over 80 Free Videos.

What does Bronze Membership Give Me? Well in addition to all of the features of our Free Membership (including the “First Steps to Femininity” MP3 and over 80 free videos), you will also get access to all future premium Feminine 1st videos for the duration of your membership. You will also have the opportunity to submit requests for topics to be covered or questions to be answered in these weekly videos.

So click here to find out how to feel more emotional connection in your life

Stay Fabulous,

Claire x

Would you like to learn more about the aspects of the feminine? We’re starting with flow…

Would you like to learn more about the aspects of the feminine? We're starting with flow… - Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stI’m really excited this week, because this week we’re starting to deep dive into the feminine and what it means for you.

So far we’ve looked at the different aspects of the feminine from a birds-eye view, and today we’re starting to get up close and personal.

Your unique feminine

As you know, your femininity is as unique as you are…and so in order for you to work out what your unique flavour of feminine feels like, it’s important to play with and experience the different aspects of the feminine in order to understand what your unique expression of them is.

Getting to know the aspects of the feminine better

So over the next few weeks we will be looking at each of the aspects of the feminine that I’ve shared in this and various other articles and digging down under the surface to learn more about them.

Because although our flavour of feminine is unique to us as individuals, there are 8 common aspects that every feminine woman has inside her.

I’ll also be giving you suggestions, ideas and exercises as the weeks go on for you to play with and try out in order to get to know these aspects of the feminine better and to discover what they mean to you.

So today we’re beginning with the F from F.E.M.I.N.I.N.E. and starting off with flow…one of the most important aspects to embody, and one that so many struggle with a lot…

If you are already a Feminine 1st Family Member of Bronze Level or above, click here to see the full video

 

So how can you begin to embody the aspect of flow into your life?

I would love to share more with you about this and so many incredible topics, and so I’d like to invite you today to join the Feminine 1st Family as a Bronze Member or to become a Free Member to enjoy over 80 Free Videos.

What does Bronze Membership Give Me? Well in addition to all of the features of our Free Membership (including the “First Steps to Femininity” MP3 and over 80 free videos), you will also get access to all future premium Feminine 1st videos for the duration of your membership. You will also have the opportunity to submit requests for topics to be covered or questions to be answered in these weekly videos.

So click here to find out how to embody the feminine aspect of flow in your life

Stay Fabulous,

Claire x

What’s the one thing you need to know to resolve conflict in all of your relationships?

What's the one thing you need to know to resolve conflict in all of your relationships? - Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stLet’s face it, when you bring two people together for any period of time, sooner or later there is going to be a difference of opinion.

I’ve not yet heard of two people anywhere who always think the exact same thing, at the exact same time with no variance whatsoever.

..and so regardless of whether the relationships are intimate relationships, business relationships, family relationships or friendships, there is going to come a point in time where you have different points of view.

The man / woman divide in relationships

When it comes to relationships between a man and a woman the opportunity for a difference of opinion comes up more frequently than in relationships between men or between women, mainly because we’re so fundamentally different inside.

We think differently.

We have different motivations.

We feel differently.

We have different priorities.

We have different fears, worries and concerns.

We have different approaches.

We have different meanings for the same words.

In fact, it’s a wonder that we agree on anything!

But it’s not just relationships between men and women that have problems!

As I’m sure you know, it’s not just relationships between men and women where you can have differences of opinion that lead to problems.

Though they might not happen as often, these can happen in relationships between women and between men…it’s natural when you bring two different people together.

Now, if we lived in a culture where we all enlightened and took the approach of accepting and respecting that we all have slightly different points of view, without taking it personally or allowing it to cause conflict in our relationships…we’d be fine.

Unfortunately, this isn’t often the case.  

Often when someone has a different point of view there’s an assumption that they believe we’re ‘wrong’ and so we defend our point of view to show them otherwise.  Or otherwise we feel that they just don’t understand our point of view, so we take it upon ourselves to explain (sometimes forcefully and in a lot of detail!) what we mean, because if they understood it, they’d agree with us, right?

The downside of this, as I’m sure you’ve experienced at some point is that a difference of opinion can quickly switch to a debate, conflict, arguement…or worse!

In my experience, knowing the one thing that can help reduce, or resolve conflicts in any and all kinds of relationships is pretty helpful…because you can use it any time a difference of opinion comes up, to prevent the conflict before it even begins.

So today I want to share with you this nugget that has transformed challenges in my own personal relationships, and that I share with anyone I work with who is having challenges in their relationship…

If you are already a Feminine 1st Family Member of Bronze Level or above, click here to see the full video

 

So how do you use this to resolve conflict in any and all kinds of relationships?

I would love to share more with you about this and so many incredible topics, and so I’d like to invite you today to join the Feminine 1st Family as a Bronze Member or to become a Free Member to enjoy over 80 Free Videos.

What does Bronze Membership Give Me? Well in addition to all of the features of our Free Membership (including the “First Steps to Femininity” MP3 and over 80 free videos), you will also get access to all future premium Feminine 1st videos for the duration of your membership. You will also have the opportunity to submit requests for topics to be covered or questions to be answered in these weekly videos.

So click here to find out how to resolve conflict in any and all kinds of relationships

Stay Fabulous,

Claire x

Do you only allow yourself to feel good when you’ve ‘done good’?

do good to feel good checklistI don’t know about you, but I like feeling good.

In fact I LOVE feeling good.

But why is it that ‘feeling good’ is something that we feel we need to earn?

In order to give ourselves the time and space to feel good, we first feel that we need to do something, achieve something or accomplish something.

We allow ourselves to relax after a hard day’s work.

We say we’ve earned a break, a holiday or even something as simple as a good cup of tea (!) when we’ve been busy.

We feel the need to cross so many items off our to-do list before we feel entitled to some ‘me time’.

So many of us jump out of bed at the start of the day and so begins the incessant ‘doing’, the completing of tasks that will mean that come evening time we’ve done enough to warrant sitting down and relaxing.

Now all of this is well and good…if it actually works for us…but what so many women don’t realise is that for the majority of us, it doesn’t.

What do we need in order to feel good?

Because when we start to understand the motivations, needs and desires of the masculine and feminine, we realise that we’re fundamentally and dramatically different when it comes to the areas of ‘feeling good’ and ‘doing good’.

  • The masculine needs to ‘do good’ first in order to feel good.
  • The feminine needs to feel good first in order to ‘do good’.

As with most key aspects of the masculine and feminine, we are once again equal and opposite. Neither way is better, or worse, right or wrong, it’s just what works for us individually.

The masculine, being goal-orientated, focused and driven to accomplish, needs to feel useful. He needs to feel that he has done his work and achieved some results in order to be able to relax and enjoy feeling good. A masculine man who has not accomplished anything for a period of time will start to feel restless, dissatisfied and less in touch with his masculinity.

The doing can take many forms, going out to work, projects around the house, working on the car, exercise, even helping his partner ‘fix’ her problems (which can be the source of many misunderstandings and relationship challenges!) As long as he can put a check in the box, and feel he’s done a good job, he’ll then be able to relax, unwind and enjoy feeling good, knowing he’s accomplished something.

For the feminine, it’s ‘feel good’ first…

On the flip side however, it’s a different story. The Feminine woman isn’t driven by goals, results or achievements. She’s inspired by emotionally connecting, building relationships, nurturing, communicating and being in flow. As a lot of these aspects require her to give something of herself, in order to bring the best of herself (and ‘do good’) she first needs to fill her own cup, nurture herself and give to herself first in order that she can give the best of herself to others, and create the kind of effect that she wants to for the people around her. Simply, she needs to first feel good, in order to really bring the best of herself when she is ‘doing’.

The thing is that so many feminine women have spent so much time in ‘masculine mode’, that we’ve got into the habit of doing it the masculine way, without ever stopping and questioning whether it actually works for us.

We pay our dues, we do our work, we check off our to do lists, and then collapse in a heap, exhausted – our downtime becomes more about recovery than relaxation.

But if you were to try a different approach you might be surprised with the results.

Have you tried ‘feel good’ first…’do good’ second?

Take today for example. Wednesdays are a busy day for me. Every Wednesday I need to edit and produce two different videos, get them uploaded, put out two blogs, send out several different versions of my newsletter, keep up with my correspondence, take any client calls that are scheduled in and tick off any other urgent items on my to do list that need doing.

Today was a particularly busy day and when I woke up I was feeling the pressure to get started right away. I knew there was a lot to do and I wanted to start to feel like I was making a dent in the long list of tasks I had.

It was very tempting to skip my morning routine, the one that fills me up and nourishes me for the day ahead, and just get started.

But I didn’t.

I took the time to do my goddess yoga practice.

I did my meditation.

I made myself some breakfast…and just before I was about to jump into the shower my partner made a suggestion.

“Why don’t you have a bath?”

Now for me, baths are indulgent time to relax. They are a way to unwind, forget the world and just focus on myself. I normally read in the bath, and so they are not a short affair.

But in spite of the fact that the little voice in my head was saying ‘No! You need to get to work!” something told me that a bath was the perfect way to begin my day.

…so I grabbed my book and disappeared into the bathroom.

A couple of hours later, relaxed, and feeling great I began to ease myself into my day.

I still had a lot to do, but the ease with which I was able to do it was palpable.

Not only was it easier…I was more effective.

I had a potentially difficult customer service challenge come up due to a technical glitch…but I was in a better space to be able to effectively deal with it. In a way that made me feel good (and that I was looking after my customers in the best way possible) and resulted in a satisfied customer. I received a lovely email in reply thanking me for responding in such an upstanding way and saying how refreshing it was to see such good customer service online. In their words “Everyone makes mistakes, but not everyone makes an effort that is real to handle them”. I was able to better serve her needs because I was in a good space myself.

I then had a consultation with a potential new client, and because I felt so grounded, relaxed and filled up I was able to serve her even better than I would have been able to had I not taken the time to look after myself first.

I completed all of the ‘tasks’ that needed doing, but rather than feeling stressed and pressured, I felt relaxed and I enjoyed it more!

…and I am ending the day typing this article to you from a deck chair on the balcony, enjoying the beautiful blue sky, the warm breeze and the setting sun.

If the masculine approach to doing good and feeling good works for you, then stick with it – if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it! 🙂

But if you find yourself more often than not drained at the end of the day, feeling tired and stressed with your work and like you spend more time recovering than relaxing, then maybe give this alternative approach a try.

I know as a feminine woman it works best for me, my customers and the people around me – I’m more relaxed, feel more filled up and can therefore can give the best of myself to them.

If you’re tank’s running low to start with, it won’t be long before you’re running on empty. Try filling up first…you might be surprised at the difference it makes.

Stay Fabulous,

Claire x

Why isn’t my man more masculine?

Why isn't my man more masculine, Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stNo matter where I go in the world, I always get asked a lot of questions.

But there are some that I hear with an alarming degree of regularity.

…and there’s one that I hear more than most.

Depending on whether a woman is single or in a relationship the question varies slightly…but the gist is the same.

For single women it’s “Why can’t I find any masculine men?”

For women in relationships it’s “Why isn’t my man more masculine?”

The essence is the same, women can’t find the masculinity that they want in the men around them.

Why aren’t our men more masculine?

Well the feminist movement had a big impact.  As women stepped into the work place, and took on the roles that had been exclusively for men, men were expected to begin taking on the roles of women.

They heard over and over again “You must get in touch with your feminine side”.

They were expected to be more ‘touchy feely”, to help out around the house, to listen, to talk more, to be more like us women.

..and they did a great job at getting in touch with their feminine side…

…the bad news is that they did such a great job that they forgot what they masculine side looked like!

The word masculine became mistakenly synonymous with macho, neanderthal…even misogynistic.

Men became less and less comfortable expressing their masculinity for fear of criticism or facing yet another emasculating comment.

But do I want my man to be more masculine?

The answer is simple.  This many women asking “why isn’t my man more masculine?” indicates that’s exactly what we want.

Feminine women are craving masculinity in their men.

They truly want their men to be able to step up and be the man so that they can finally relax and be themselves.

They don’t want to have to be in control, to take all the responsibility, to be in charge all the time.

They want a partner, someone who complements them, their opposite but equal.

…so why isn’t this happening?

Today I share with you the answer…

If you are already a Feminine 1st Family Member of Bronze Level or above, click here to see the full video

 

So do you want to know more about how you can help your man to be more masculine?

I would love to share more with you about this and so many incredible topics, and so I’d like to invite you today to join the Feminine 1st Family as a Bronze Member.

What does Bronze Membership Give Me? Well in addition to all of the features of our Free Membership, you will also get access to all future weekly Feminine 1st videos for the duration of your membership. You will also have the opportunity to submit requests for topics to be covered or questions to be answered in these weekly videos.

The Feminine 1st Family launched fully on June 1st and therefore if you would like to continue to enjoy the new weekly videos (and request a video responding to your specific question) I am sharing a very special introductory offer until the end of June.

So click here to find out all about how to help your man be more masculine.

Stay Fabulous,

Claire x