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Why do some women avoid masculine men?

Why do some women avoid masculine men? Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stI find it interesting how strongly people can react to a simple word. As soon as you say the word masculine, some women just shut down, they’re not interested, they don’t want to know. When this happens most of the time I know exactly what’s happening…they are reacting to an image in their mind.   The perception of what masculine really is…but the reality is that they only know half the story.

So what’s the problem with masculine men?

The answer is that there’s nothing ‘wrong’ with masculine men, often women just aren’t aware that there’s more than one type. It’s the same reason that some men are afraid of or resistant to reclaim their masculinity, because their perception of what that means isn’t the whole story. Last week I shared that there are two types of feminine, and it’s exactly the same with the masculine.

So why does it matter that there are two types of masculine?

Well, the reason it’s important to know that there are two types of masculine is that if you make your decision on how you feel about masculinity only seeing one (sometimes unappealing) aspect of it, it can skew your view on the whole thing. So, to help you out, today I’m sharing with you what the two types of masculine are…and why it’s important to be able to identify them…

So which type of masculine have you experienced?

As with the feminine, there are times when a man is feeling low, criticised, or like he’s failing where he may drop into the disempowered masculine…but it’s important to know whether he lives there or just visits from time to time when his energy is low.

So I’m curious…what type of masculine have you experienced?

Have you seen both in action?  Can you bring to mind examples of times when you’ve seen one or the other in a man you know?

…and most importantly which do you want to support your man in being?

Stay Fabulous,

Claire x

Do you know how to release masculine tension?

Do you know how to release masculine tension? Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stSynchronicity is awesome.

There are several times when the universe just conspires in our favour.

A couple of weeks ago when I was at the top of the Tor at Glastonbury I recorded a couple of videos in order to share the beautiful scenery with you as much as possible.

When I got back, I got the videos all edited and ready to go, so that I could share them over the next couple of weeks.

Now normally I don’t tend to plan my videos too far in advance, I like to go with my intuition as to what is the right thing to share.  Having followed my intuition I’ve received many beautiful messages from women around the world letting me know that the video came at just the right time for something that was happening in her life and really helped.

So from the top of the Tor I followed my intuition again and this time it led me to share about something that has been a really important understanding for me – how to release masculine tension.

….then synchronicity struck again.  I was delighted when I was talking to a friend last week and she said “you know I’ve been working on trying to release some of the tension in my body”…so I hope you will find this information valuable too.

So why is tension masculine?

As I share in the video, tension in the muscles in your body tends to happen for one of a couple of reasons.

The first reason is protection.  Our bodies naturally tense up in order to protect ourselves…if we see anything coming towards us that could harm our body, we instinctively tense our muscles and contract.  If you ever saw boys playing the game ‘who can punch each other in the stomach harder’ when they were younger, the way they prepared for the impact was to tense the stomach muscles, as it protects the organs inside from the punch.

The second reason is to ‘do’ something.  In order to ‘do’ most things, our bodies need to tense and use the muscles in the body.  In order to move, to lift things, even to keep warm! When we get cold our muscles tense and cause us to shiver in order to warm the body up.

Both doing and protection are both masculine traits…the feminine is more about being and allowing.

So why do I want to get rid of masculine tension?

Now, as we know, we all have both masculine and feminine inside us, so having an element of masculine tension isn’t a bad thing, it’s just a question of balance.

These days so many women spend so much time in their masculine in order to be successful in their careers that they have a disproportionate amount of masculine tension in their bodies.

When we have too much of this masculine tension in our bodies, we can end up feeling drained, so it’s important to know how to release it when we can feel it.

So today I’m sharing with you a couple of tips for how to release masculine tension from the top of a very windy Tor! (apologies for the dips in sound)…

So will you now release your masculine tension?

So where do we tend to feel and notice this masculine tension?

The simple answer is that it can be in any part of our bodies but there are a few ‘usual suspects’ to look out for.

We tend to feel this tension primarily in our stomachs, backs, necks and shoulders. We can also notice it appearing in the form of headaches and tension in our foreheads and temples.

So if you notice any of this tension creeping in then I invite you to try out the suggestions in the video to release it and let it go.

Stay Fabulous!

Claire x

Would you like to know how to unleash the masculine in your man?

How to unleash the masculine in your man, Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stWell, I was overwhelmed by the response to last week’s video, and I was delighted to know that the information I shared in my first ever television interview resonated with you.

I got some amazing feedback about how well you related to feeling tired, uninspired and unfulfilled in your work…and how much you loved the difference between the masculine and feminine approaches to success…with the example of the tall building and the valuable city.

If you missed the interview, click here to check it out: http://feminine1st.com/have-you-ever-felt-low-energy-depleted-or-unfulfilled-in-your-job/

So as promised last week, today I am sharing with you part 2 of the interview, in which we move on to talk about relationships.

Have you ever wondered how you can bring out the masculine in your man?

Ania and Lieanne ask me some really juicy questions in this clip, and I’m delighted that this week I’m  able to share my insights with you on the questions they asked…. ‘What can women do about the fact that they’re being successful in their careers, but not in their love lives?’, ‘Where are the strong masculine men?’, ‘How can we get back into our feminine when we’re spending a lot of time in the masculine?’, ‘Do you tell your man if you’re working on this, or do you just do it?’, but my favourite question of all was ‘What can a woman do to unleash that wild tiger in their man and get them to be very masculine?’

How can I unleash the masculine ‘tiger’ in my man?

This is a question that I get asked a lot.

Not necessarily the ‘tiger’ bit…but you get the gist.

The essence of it is “How can I bring out the masculine in my man?”

…and the answer is very simple.

There’s one thing that you can do, that will bring the masculine out in any man who is masculine at his core.

For some it will be almost instantaneous…for others it may take a little time.  But it will work with any masculine man…guaranteed.

Would you like to know what it is?

Check out the video now to find the secret to unleashing the masculine in your man:

So are you prepared to do what it takes to bring out the masculine in your man?

As I mention in the video…this can feel like you’re taking a risk.

You want to trust that your man will step up and in…but there’s always that little voice in the back of your mind wondering ‘what if he doesn’t?’

The simple thing to remember is, if you try it, you have the possibility of experiencing the best of the masculine in your man.  If you don’t you’re almost guaranteed that you won’t get to experience it.

So if it’s a choice between possibility and certainty that you won’t get the experience that you want, which will you choose?

I know from first hand experience, that the risk is worth taking.  Because when you experience a relationship that gets to enjoy the best of the masculine and the best of the feminine…it’s better than you could have ever imagined.

So…I invite you to give it a try yourself, you might end up being surprised….

Can’t wait to speak to you again soon, and in the meantime remember to stay fabulous!

Claire x

How can you have a relationship vision and not take the masculine hunter approach to get it?

How to have a relationship vision and not approach it in a masculine way, Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stLast Thursday was one of the best Valentine’s Day’s I’ve ever had.

I got to spend an evening with a man who makes me feel like the most special woman in the whole world, snuggling up to a romantic movie drinking Bellinis and eating popcorn.

…and I spent the afternoon sharing with some amazing single women from around the world about the 7 mistakes single women make when looking for love.

How do I know they are amazing women?

Well, the fact that they care enough about their intimate lives to take an hour out of their day to find out how they can transform their dating lives for good is a pretty clear indication to me.

The other thing that gave it away was some of the questions they asked.  …and today I get to respond to one of them and share it with you.

How can you have a relationship vision and not take the masculine ‘hunter’ approach to get it?

When I saw that someone had asked this question I was delighted.  Here were a group of women who ‘get it’.  They understand the real challenges that approaching relationships in a masculine way can have.

They know that taking on the ‘hunter’ role when looking for love can have a serious impact on the kind of man that you attract…and more importantly on the kind of man that you won’t.

So how is it possible to have a relationship vision and approach it in a feminine way?

The question is “Is there another way?” Is it possible to hold a specific and clear idea of the kind of man and relationship that you want to attract into your life, to have that relationship vision, and not ‘hunt it down’?

The short answer is simple.  Yes.  There is another way.

…and today I get to share with you why that’s true.  Watch the video now to find out more:

Bonus Video – How to have a relationship vision and not approach it in a masculine way from Claire Brummell on Vimeo.

So how can I create a relationship vision that I can really attract in this way?

As I mention in the video there’s so many aspects to this and I have so much to share with you about how to create a relationship vision and approach it in a way that you can really attract the relationship that you desire and deserve, that I’ve put them all together in the Femininity for the Single Woman Video Course…which is available now…Click here for more information.

…and if you’d like to find out more about the 7 Mistakes Single Women Make When Looking For Love AND The 1 Thing You Need To Know To Attract The Relationship You Desire & Deserve. Then you can now get access to the recording of the webinar…click here to get the free videos and the videos sent straight to your inbox: http://feminine1st.com/free-webinar-7-mistakes-single-women/

Can’t wait to see you then, and in the meantime remember to stay fabulous!

Claire x

How can you help yourself to find a masculine man or feminine woman?

Show up as feminine to help them show up as masculine, Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stSo as we talked about last week, when we learn about polarity and the masculine and feminine, we realise that we want to be with someone who brings the opposite energy.

We want to find, attract, and be with someone who will be our equal and opposite, the one who will be the yang to our yin, the masculine to our feminine or vice versa.

What we don’t realise is that it’s not just about what’s inside the other person, whether they are masculine or feminine at core is not the whole story….

How do I find that masculine  man or feminine woman?

This is a question I get asked a lot.  How can I find this, or how can I find that?  Where can I find my masculine man? Where do all the feminine woman go?

I’m sorry to break it to you, there isn’t a secret underground club in London where they’re all hiding out just waiting for you to show up!

Looking for a masculine man or a feminine woman may be exactly where your problem lies…you might be focusing in the wrong place.

So where should I be looking to find my masculine man, or feminine woman?

What a lot of people don’t realise is that they’re looking for it ‘out there’, what we don’t realise is that what’s ‘in here’ (i.e. inside you) is what matters most of all.

What you’re bringing to the table is signalling what you want them to bring to the table.  Watch the video now to find out how the masculine men and feminine women are probably hiding in plain sight…

So my masculine or feminine will affect their masculine or feminine?

Yes!  As I said before, what you bring to the table is what you’re signalling to them that you’d like them to bring to the table.

Imagine that you’ve been invited to a barbecue on a lovely hot summer’s afternoon. There’s going to be a buffet table of salad and everyone will be bringing something to share.

Before you go to the store to work out what you want to bring for the salad buffet, you want to check what else is already on the table. You call the person who’s organising the BBQ and ask them what they already have.  If they tell you that they already have potato salad, the chances are that you’re not going to want to bring the same….instead you’ll want to bring something that will compliment the potato salad so that the buffet is more enjoyable for everyone.

The same is true with the masculine and feminine.  It often doesn’t happen at a conscious level, but subconsciously people will look and see what’s already on the table to work out what they can bring that will compliment what’s already there.  If you are showing up in a masculine way, it is possible that the man you’re with will bring his feminine to the table so that you don’t end up with a whole table full of potato salad!

So understanding and realising that how you show up can, and will affect how they show up will help you to find more of the masculine in any man.

Stay Fabulous!

Claire x

Why do feminine women put on a masculine mask?

Claire Brummell, Feminine 1st, Masculine maskWe’ve been speaking about the masculine and feminine on this blog for quite some time now…we’ve discussed the aspects of the masculine, the aspects of the feminine, we’ve spoken about masculine masks, fake feminine, balance…the list is endless.

But a question I get asked on a regular basis is “Why is it that women who are feminine inside end up putting a masculine mask on?”

So why the masculine mask?

Well the first thing to understand is that most women who have a masculine mask haven’t got a clue that it exists.

I speak from experience.  I wore a masculine mask for nearly 20 years myself and I had no idea….I didn’t even know that such a thing existed.

It’s not something that’s done through conscious choice…it happens as a reaction to our experiences in life.

If we don’t even know what a masculine mask is, where does it come from?

Just because we don’t know that a masculine mask exists, doesn’t stop it from affecting us.

That would be like saying that just because we don’t know about a new strain of flu, we can’t catch it.

Well a masculine mask and the flu are very similar in many ways.  You can’t see them with the naked eye, they affect how you feel and how you behave, they drain your energy and people don’t notice when it first starts to affect them.

So, where do these masculine masks come from? Watch the video now to learn where your masculine mask came from…

So how does this help us to remove the masculine mask?

Well, the beauty of understanding where a masculine mask comes from is that it gives you the ability to see where it originated.  When you can see where it originated, you can understand what purpose it was trying to serve.  When you can understand the purpose it was trying to serve you have the ability to look at it in a different way and see if there is another way to approach the situation that might serve you better.

One that feels more natural.

One that is easier to maintain.

One that is more….you.

…and I would love for you to share this video today with another woman who you know who might benefit from understanding where her masculine mask comes from.

I certainly wish someone had shared this information with me all those years ago…

Stay Fabulous!

Claire x

How do you achieve your goals in a feminine way?

Feminine woman goal setting intentionIt’s that time of year when everyone, including us feminine women, is looking with anticipation to the year ahead, setting goals, making plans, focusing.

We want to make sure we hit our targets, achieve our outcomes, and create the success that we want for ourselves in the year ahead.

The only challenge that we have with this is that, as we know, being very focused and goal-orientated are very masculine traits.

So how do we, as feminine women, still achieve our goals?

Just because you’re feminine doesn’t automatically mean that you don’t have any goals or outcomes that you’re looking to achieve, so how do we go about getting them without stepping completely into our masculine?

Well the first word to remember here is balance.

Just because you’re a feminine woman, doesn’t mean that you have to avoid your masculine. As we know, we all have both masculine and feminine inside us, and we have them both for a reason…

…to use them both.

The key to this is remembering to utilise the masculine for short periods of time and when it serves you and those around you best.

So there are plenty of opportunities when creating goals and plans to use your masculine for short periods of time to make the most of the process.

As a feminine woman, I find that having a masculine structure for what I’m working to achieve that I can then use the best of my feminine creativity and flow inside provides a great balance.

For my working week I have blocks of time dedicated to different areas of my work life to make sure that I get to everything, but within those blocks of time I allow myself to allow my feminine traits to lead the way using my creativity and intuition and go with what feels like the best use of the time in that area.

But using the masculine is not the only approach to achieving the things you would like in 2013.

So, what is the feminine approach to having what you want in 2013?

We all know how the masculine approach works. You set a goal, set a deadline and then work the steps backwards so that you know what you need to do when in order to reach your target.

But what is the feminine approach?

To achieve things the feminine way involves moving away from setting goals, and towards setting intentions.

So what’s the difference between a masculine goal and a feminine intention?

When we set a goal, it’s not just about the end result, there’s a process to it. As I mentioned above, we don’t just set the goal, we also create the step-by-step plan for how you’ll get there.

Very little is left to chance, there isn’t much room to maneuver, you know each milestone that you need to hit along the way to end up at the finish line.

The main difference between a goal and an intention is that with an intention you don’t figure out the how. Rather than working out every little detail along the way, you let go of any attachment to how it will happen, and just focus on the fact that you know it will.

You see, when we get focused on the how, we often limit the ways in which we can reach our outcomes. While taking the masculine approach can work, if you are rigid about how it needs to happen, often you might not notice another potential option that could be better or quicker.

When we let go of the ‘how’ we open ourselves up to any and every option that could get us to our intended destination.

The other thing with an intention is that, you get emotionally associated to it.

…Why do you want it? Why is it important to you? How will you feel when you get it?

These emotions become the fuel that keeps you going along your path to reach the intended outcome.

The thing with intentions is that they are all about B.E.L.I.E.F:

  • Be Specific – Set a very specific intention…what specifically do you want, and by when?
  • Emotionally Associate – Get emotional about it…how will you feel about it when it happens? Allow yourself to feel that now.
  • Let Go – Give up your perception of control and release any attachment to how it will happen…if you focus on one particular ‘how’ you could cut off other paths.
  • Ignite your Belief – Believe in it. Whole-heartedly and completely…see it happening, know it will happen. See it as ‘already done’, and don’t leave any room for the possibility that it might not happen.
  • Energise – Create some great energy around it…by looking after yourself. This is a time to focus on self-care, having fun, enjoying yourself…commit to doing one thing that would do this for you.
  • Facilitate receiving – Give yourself permission to receive what you’re setting the intention for…allow it into your life.

There are also three very important guidelines to setting intentions. You will always either:

  • Get what you want
  • Get what you need
  • Or something better

Does this mean that with an intention that you don’t work towards it?!

Of course not! You work just as hard, but rather than having the path mapped out along the way, when it comes to working out the next step, you can look at the options that are available and follow your instincts as to which is the right one for you.

The key to creating the success that you want in 2013 is to find the balance that’s right for you…a little bit of masculine goal setting and structure with a good dose of feminine intention setting is the path that’s right for me.

So what’s the balance that’s right for you as a feminine woman?

Stay Fabulous!

Claire x

From masculine mask to feminine flow…do you look back to see how far you’ve come?

Removing the masculine mask, replacing with feminine flowThis last week has been quite special for me.

Not only did I get to hang out with some of the most amazing people I know, and celebrate my birthday with Mickey Mouse and the best cupcakes I know of, but I was also able to go back and crew the event that changed my life forever.

Before I attended this event I’d unknowingly spent the last 20 years of my life trying to be a guy.

Masculine, Feminine, what…?

Masculine and Feminine were never talked about, or even thought about in my world (unless I was trying to work out whether a table in French should have a le or la at the front of it… and I still don’t understand how a table is feminine!)

Having been bullied at every school I ever went to, and particularly at the ‘all girl’ school I attended…I naturally felt more comfortable hanging around with the guys…and I was very good at being ‘one of the boys’ to fit in.

Very few people believe this when they hear it, but it’s true.

I was competitive, out to prove myself, and determined to show the guys that I could do everything as well as they could, if not better.

At university, studying IT and therefore surrounded by men, I didn’t earn my stripes by knowing more about the guys on my course about computers and programming (although that was quite often the case)….I earned them by being able to drink them all under the table, because that’s how the guys bonded.

Feminine Schmeminine

Moving on to a career in IT, then followed by video games, it’s easy to see how being in a more ‘masculine mode’ became part of my day to day life.

I wasn’t conscious of the fact that I was wearing a masculine mask, I didn’t know that there was any other way to do it, and I had no idea how much it was affecting me.

I was unhappy, stressed and exhausted…I was miserable in my ultra competitive work environment and was desperately trying to keep control in my intimate relationships to try and prevent getting hurt….which only led to more heartbreak.

An interesting series of events led me to attend the seminar that changed my life….including a Frisbee trampling, some nasty injuries and a hospital visit (read my full story here if you want to know more)

It was apparent that I was meant to be at this event…no matter what route I had to take to get there!

…and it soon became clear why.

When they started talking about masculine and feminine it felt like they were talking to me.

Finally Feeling Feminine

Within a couple of hours I’d made a very small shift, that was the beginning of a very exciting journey…one to rediscover myself, and to find the parts I’d lost touch with along the way.

I felt like I could breathe again, I felt like me for the first time in a long time, and I realised how much I had tried to change myself to create ‘success’, to keep other people happy and to try to fit in.

When I got back from the event I realised that I wanted to know more…if a small amount of information had made this much difference, then I wanted to see what else there was.

It wasn’t always an easy journey, removing the masculine mask and stepping back into feminine flow…and there were times that I really struggled with it…so I became a sponge for information about it to help me navigate the hurdles along the way.

I watched videos, read books, attended seminars, listened to audios…you name it, I did it! Anything and everything I could find out about the Masculine and Feminine….and it opened up this whole new world for me…one where I felt more relaxed, happy and fulfilled than ever.

…and that began the beginning of this journey – I realised that there were probably a lot of other women out there who are in exactly the same position as I was…feeling stressed, tired, and striving for perfection, and not knowing that there is another way.

Feminine 1st was born to help women reconnect with their feminine, and soon after my work with men to reclaim their masculine began too, as well as helping couples all over the world with polarity in relationships.

So it was interesting to be back at the event where it all began and see so many other women in exactly the same position as I had been, at the beginning of their journeys.

…and while I was there, something occurred to me.

I got the opportunity to look back and see just how far I’d come.

When I think back to how I was just a few short years ago, I realise just how different I am today. I’m happier, I’m more relaxed, I’m more in tune with my intuition….I’m much more fulfilled. The list of ways in which my life has changed goes on.

Just a few weeks ago I got to speak to the person who ran the seminar that introduced me to myself again and shared with him my story. When I explained how masculine I had been before he simply said “Well your feminine is in full flow now!”

When I was crewing this event I heard some beautiful compliments describing me as the “most feminine woman I know” and “a beautiful example of femininity”…and I realised that this was one of those moments to sit back and appreciate how far I’ve come.

In just a few years I’ve moved from the poster boy for masculine masks, to an example of feminine flow.

So today I’d like to take a moment to acknowledge and celebrate with you how far I’ve come on my journey….and also how far you’ve come on yours.

Because even if you still feel that you have a long way to go, the very fact that you’re here, reading this article, learning more about the masculine and feminine means that you are already streets ahead of so many other people out there.

Simply knowing about these concepts and being aware of the difference they can make is half the battle. Once you’ve got that, the rest is just the details….and I’m here to help with those! 🙂

So I would like to invite you today to take a moment to stop and acknowledge how far you’ve come, because as important as it is to keep your eyes on the road ahead, it’s also good to stop every once and a while and appreciate how far you’ve already travelled.

Stay Fabulous!

Claire x

Today’s Fabulous Friday Female is Alanis Morissette!

Fabulous Friday Female, Alanis MorissetteI’m always a big supporter of anyone, male or female, who does their part to raise the profile of challenges and imbalances that the world is facing regarding masculinity and femininity.

…and I’m especially pleased when they acknowledge and share that everyone has both masculine and feminine inside them and it’s finding the balance that’s important!

…and earlier this month Alanis Morissette did exactly that in a fantastic article that blends her own story with her views on how embracing the feminine could be the answer to a lot of challenges that we are facing.

So I wanted to share the essence of the article through some powerful excerpts.

It is a brave act indeed for both men and women to embrace, rather than shame or attempt to eradicate the feminine.

The ideal vision, in theory, would be to find the delicate and meaningful blend of both the masculine and feminine, and the acceptance of the fact that we all fall somewhere unique on this continuum … and that it is a continuum.

The embodiment of the empowered feminine and masculine, in theory, would “show up” in people who possess varying degrees of both qualities. The most important part being that what we had on our hands was less a gender war, and more of a resistance to the masculine or feminine within each of us.

So it becomes less about “men hating women/women hating men” and becomes more about the fear and loathing of the feminine within our own hearts and minds, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Importantly and secondarily, it’s the disempowerment of both the masculine and the feminine that is also the culprit here.

What has been grossly overlooked throughout age immemorial is that both aspects need each other for wholeness! And that unification of both, in all its forms, (meaning peace, connection, healing, inspiration, prosperity of all kinds) is our birthright.

So the idea of true partnership and connection (inner and outer)—which so many are saying is the way of the future and will ultimately stave off the destruction of our planet—requires an empowered version of both the masculine (action, generosity, solution, confidence, boldness, industry, strength etc.) and the feminine (vulnerability, tenderness, yielding, humility, grace, intuition, heart, etc.) aspects to come together, seeing the need for the other. And that this unification and complement will show up in every area of our lives: work, romance, family, health, business, art, and even politics.

So as it turns out, it’s the disempowerment of the masculine and the fear of the feminine in us that is patriarchy. The fear of this delicate and fierce feminine has more to do with our fear of being vulnerable again, getting hurt again, than it does by our actual distaste for the beauty of the feminine and Her qualities. But our avoidance and resistance to Her is torturing men and women alike, and tearing apart the fabric of what could be a very harmonious society.

Liberation is only possible with the integration of these two aspects, equally respected for their unique and powerful contribution. Not in evidencing these qualities equally every day by homogenizing and overriding our unique essential temperaments (not possible!) and contexts, but rather simply accepting these parts, even loving them, in ourselves, and in others.

Creating inner partnership between both the masculine and feminine would render us all humanists, life-ists, and wholeness-ists, rather than patriarch-ists or feminists/matriarchists.

And so, by accepting and embracing the feminine within us, and flying in the face of an overly masculinized (of the disempowered variety) society (with all of its disconnected and lonely results), we support this empowered and connected brave new world we all dream of, and, allow this union to serve as a direct portal to the Divine.

…and I encourage you to read the full article here, it’s a very interesting read.

So please join me today in acknowledging Alanis and celebrating her courage in using her voice to share how important embracing and finding our own unique balance of the feminine and masculine is to us and our future x

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As you know, I would love to acknowledge, honour and celebrate the women who have inspired you as well.

So if there is someone that you believe should feature as a Fabulous Friday Female, then send me an email (claire@feminine1st.com) with 3 simple details:Who is your Fabulous Friday Female? (Her name and location in the world)

Why is she a Fabulous Friday Female to YOU? (How do you know her? What does she do? In what way is she inspiring?)

A photo or link to a picture of her online (if there is a reason that you would prefer not to include a photo, just let me know)

So help me to share with all of our lovely ladies the real women who inspire YOU.

…and remember, as always, to Stay Fabulous too!

Claire

How do you tell if you’re more feminine or masculine at your core?

Claire Brummell, Feminine 1stSo we know that we all have both masculine and feminine traits inside us…but all the time people are asking me “Claire, how do I tell whether I’m more masculine or feminine at my core?”

There are a lot of different ways that you can tell which of the two energies is more natural for you…but there is one very simple, quick and easy way that in my experience works for everyone…and today I want to share it with you.

Now, I’m putting a disclaimer on this video…If you’re easily offended, or uncomfortable with the topic of sex then I want you to be aware that this video might stretch you out of your comfort zone a bit.  I also wouldn’t recommend watching it at your desk at work (or if you do, I’d invest in a pair of headphones!)…it might raise a few eyebrows while people are working on their morning coffee!

So enough chat…watch the video to see how you can find out what energy you are at your core:

The one thing to remember in this is that it only tells you which of the energies is the most natural for you – the one you tend towards at your core.  As we know, we all have both energies inside us and this doesn’t tell you what the balance of the two is.  So when you’re aware of which energy is most natural for you, it’s then fun to have a play with the different energies and traits to see what balance also feels right.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this and also any questions that you might have about understanding whether you are more masculine or feminine at your core,  so please leave me a comment below to share your thoughts…

Wishing you an amazing week,

Stay Fabulous!

Claire x