How do you achieve your goals in a feminine way?

Feminine woman goal setting intentionIt’s that time of year when everyone, including us feminine women, is looking with anticipation to the year ahead, setting goals, making plans, focusing.

We want to make sure we hit our targets, achieve our outcomes, and create the success that we want for ourselves in the year ahead.

The only challenge that we have with this is that, as we know, being very focused and goal-orientated are very masculine traits.

So how do we, as feminine women, still achieve our goals?

Just because you’re feminine doesn’t automatically mean that you don’t have any goals or outcomes that you’re looking to achieve, so how do we go about getting them without stepping completely into our masculine?

Well the first word to remember here is balance.

Just because you’re a feminine woman, doesn’t mean that you have to avoid your masculine. As we know, we all have both masculine and feminine inside us, and we have them both for a reason…

…to use them both.

The key to this is remembering to utilise the masculine for short periods of time and when it serves you and those around you best.

So there are plenty of opportunities when creating goals and plans to use your masculine for short periods of time to make the most of the process.

As a feminine woman, I find that having a masculine structure for what I’m working to achieve that I can then use the best of my feminine creativity and flow inside provides a great balance.

For my working week I have blocks of time dedicated to different areas of my work life to make sure that I get to everything, but within those blocks of time I allow myself to allow my feminine traits to lead the way using my creativity and intuition and go with what feels like the best use of the time in that area.

But using the masculine is not the only approach to achieving the things you would like in 2013.

So, what is the feminine approach to having what you want in 2013?

We all know how the masculine approach works. You set a goal, set a deadline and then work the steps backwards so that you know what you need to do when in order to reach your target.

But what is the feminine approach?

To achieve things the feminine way involves moving away from setting goals, and towards setting intentions.

So what’s the difference between a masculine goal and a feminine intention?

When we set a goal, it’s not just about the end result, there’s a process to it. As I mentioned above, we don’t just set the goal, we also create the step-by-step plan for how you’ll get there.

Very little is left to chance, there isn’t much room to maneuver, you know each milestone that you need to hit along the way to end up at the finish line.

The main difference between a goal and an intention is that with an intention you don’t figure out the how. Rather than working out every little detail along the way, you let go of any attachment to how it will happen, and just focus on the fact that you know it will.

You see, when we get focused on the how, we often limit the ways in which we can reach our outcomes. While taking the masculine approach can work, if you are rigid about how it needs to happen, often you might not notice another potential option that could be better or quicker.

When we let go of the ‘how’ we open ourselves up to any and every option that could get us to our intended destination.

The other thing with an intention is that, you get emotionally associated to it.

…Why do you want it? Why is it important to you? How will you feel when you get it?

These emotions become the fuel that keeps you going along your path to reach the intended outcome.

The thing with intentions is that they are all about B.E.L.I.E.F:

  • Be Specific – Set a very specific intention…what specifically do you want, and by when?
  • Emotionally Associate – Get emotional about it…how will you feel about it when it happens? Allow yourself to feel that now.
  • Let Go – Give up your perception of control and release any attachment to how it will happen…if you focus on one particular ‘how’ you could cut off other paths.
  • Ignite your Belief – Believe in it. Whole-heartedly and completely…see it happening, know it will happen. See it as ‘already done’, and don’t leave any room for the possibility that it might not happen.
  • Energise – Create some great energy around it…by looking after yourself. This is a time to focus on self-care, having fun, enjoying yourself…commit to doing one thing that would do this for you.
  • Facilitate receiving – Give yourself permission to receive what you’re setting the intention for…allow it into your life.

There are also three very important guidelines to setting intentions. You will always either:

  • Get what you want
  • Get what you need
  • Or something better

Does this mean that with an intention that you don’t work towards it?!

Of course not! You work just as hard, but rather than having the path mapped out along the way, when it comes to working out the next step, you can look at the options that are available and follow your instincts as to which is the right one for you.

The key to creating the success that you want in 2013 is to find the balance that’s right for you…a little bit of masculine goal setting and structure with a good dose of feminine intention setting is the path that’s right for me.

So what’s the balance that’s right for you as a feminine woman?

Stay Fabulous!

Claire x

3 replies
  1. Heather
    Heather says:

    Loved, loved, loved this article! I had been thinking this way but was never able to articulate it. There were so many times I struggled at events where they have you write down your goals & the steps to get there (felt too restrictive).

    The best things in my life have always happened when I set the idea for it then just let it happen vs. doing everything I could to “make it happen”. Thanks so much for writing this!


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