I love travelling all over the world meeting different people, and when you do what I do for a living it’s always a conversation starter. What’s interesting is how often I see people have a negative reaction to the word ‘feminine’ or ‘femininity’, and it made me curious.
The reason for the feminine reaction
Whenever I’ve seen this happen, further conversation has revealed that it wasn’t femininity or feminine that was causing the reaction, it was a misperception as to what the word meant. Normally the misperception came about because they only knew about one of the types of feminine…not the other. The most interesting example I saw of this was a man who was very masculine at his core telling me that he wasn’t attracted to feminine women, he was attracted to ones who were operating from their masculine.
Did you know there are two types of feminine?
When we spoke more, I realised that it wasn’t that he was attracted to masculinity in a woman, he was just unaware that there were two types of feminine. Hearing him describe femininity was very eye-opening. He viewed feminine women as needy, attention seeking, a drain on his energy, where nothing he did was ever good enough. A light bulb went on in my head. He had only experienced one type of feminine woman…and didn’t even know that there was another. So today I want to share with you about the two types of feminine…as you may not have experienced them both…
So which type of feminine are you?
The answer is that if we’re a feminine woman there are times when we’ve been in both. When we’re tired, run down, exhausted, and haven’t been looking after ourselves, we naturally drop into the disempowered feminine, because we’ve not taken the time to fill our own cup.
The secret is to notice when this is happening and take some time to nurture ourselves, to stop doing and allow ourselves to just be for a bit in order to find our way back to our empowered feminine again, because that’s where we want to live.
So this week, I invite you to notice the women around you, and whether they are in an empowered or disempowered feminine…and most importantly to notice yourself, and what you can do for yourself if you find yourself coming from the disempowered feminine at times.