We want to find, attract, and be with someone who will be our equal and opposite, the one who will be the yang to our yin, the masculine to our feminine or vice versa.
What we don’t realise is that it’s not just about what’s inside the other person, whether they are masculine or feminine at core is not the whole story….
How do I find that masculine man or feminine woman?
This is a question I get asked a lot. How can I find this, or how can I find that? Where can I find my masculine man? Where do all the feminine woman go?
I’m sorry to break it to you, there isn’t a secret underground club in London where they’re all hiding out just waiting for you to show up!
Looking for a masculine man or a feminine woman may be exactly where your problem lies…you might be focusing in the wrong place.
So where should I be looking to find my masculine man, or feminine woman?
What a lot of people don’t realise is that they’re looking for it ‘out there’, what we don’t realise is that what’s ‘in here’ (i.e. inside you) is what matters most of all.
What you’re bringing to the table is signalling what you want them to bring to the table. Watch the video now to find out how the masculine men and feminine women are probably hiding in plain sight…
So my masculine or feminine will affect their masculine or feminine?
Yes! As I said before, what you bring to the table is what you’re signalling to them that you’d like them to bring to the table.
Imagine that you’ve been invited to a barbecue on a lovely hot summer’s afternoon. There’s going to be a buffet table of salad and everyone will be bringing something to share.
Before you go to the store to work out what you want to bring for the salad buffet, you want to check what else is already on the table. You call the person who’s organising the BBQ and ask them what they already have. If they tell you that they already have potato salad, the chances are that you’re not going to want to bring the same….instead you’ll want to bring something that will compliment the potato salad so that the buffet is more enjoyable for everyone.
The same is true with the masculine and feminine. It often doesn’t happen at a conscious level, but subconsciously people will look and see what’s already on the table to work out what they can bring that will compliment what’s already there. If you are showing up in a masculine way, it is possible that the man you’re with will bring his feminine to the table so that you don’t end up with a whole table full of potato salad!
So understanding and realising that how you show up can, and will affect how they show up will help you to find more of the masculine in any man.