Do you know how important sisterhood is to women like us?

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Do you know how important sisterhood is to women like us?When someone sends something onto me, I always take the time to look at it…after all, there’s a reason they’ve sent it my way.

When more than one person sends me the same thing in the space of only a few hours I really sit up and pay attention.

The power of a circle of women sisterhood

A few days ago I received this image via a number of different sources, which told me a few things:

  • It was something that was important
  • It was relevant to me
  • It was something I was supposed to share

I shared the image via the Feminine 1st Facebook group, and this morning I noticed that it was the most popular item I’ve shared recently…this image was resonating with people…and I understood why.

When an image, quote or video like this resonates with people there are normally two reasons:

  • Either they have what is being referred to in the message, realise how important and powerful it is and want to both acknowledge it for themselves, and let other people know how great it is.
  • OR they recognise something in what is being shared that is missing in their life…something they want, something they need…something that on a deep level they crave.
  • Most of the women I know, or meet in life fall into one of these categories when it comes to the relationships they have with other women.

Unfortunately, a lot of the women I meet fall into the second group.

Are you one of the women who is missing this in her life?

So many women recognise and understand that there is something missing in their lives, but they can’t quite put their finger on it.

Something isn’t quite right, something is lacking…but they’re not sure what.

Sometimes it can be hard to know what you need and want, if you’ve never experienced it. It’s like someone asking you to tell them something you’ve forgotten…you know that there’s something, but you can’t quite put your finger on it.

…and it is something that is so fundamental to the feminine that I can’t really put into words how important it is.

Deep connection with other women.

In this world of Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, Instagram we are connected to more people than ever before…but many of these connections are nothing more than words on a screen.

The connections and relationships exist just under the surface…based on status shares, tweets, comments and ‘likes’.

We have more ‘friends’ than ever before…but we are missing the depth of connection that has the power to really support us, change us and help us to grow.

When it comes to connections of this nature between women, we tend to label them all as ‘friends’.

What so many women don’t understand is that there is so much more available to us…if we have the courage to create it.

What types of relationships do you have with the women in your life?

Most connections start as acquaintances, with a sense of familiarity that goes beyond that of strangers, but doesn’t quite put them into the category of friends. They are the people with whom you tend to make polite small talk or a chat when your paths cross through mutual friends or interests, but not people with whom you feel a real trust or friendship with…yet.

Once the connection deepens…we tend to enter the realm of ‘friendship’. A deeper bond has been created, there is a trust, a desire to support each other, to spend time together, to chat, to enjoy fun times with. There’s a reciprocity present in most friendships…we expect to give and receive in roughly equal measure, and if the scales tip in one direction or another for too long we feel uneasy. We are there for them, and in return they are there for us. We laugh together, we cry together, we share in each others lives.

What more could you want?

If you need to ask this question then you’ve not experienced the next level of female connection: Sisterhood.

Sisterhood is where everything opens up (whether you want it to or not!)

When you choose sisterhood, you choose to accept everything that a person is, everything that they’re not, everything they have been and everything they will be, unreservedly, without judgment, exactly as they are.

Sisterhood expands everything you have in friendship, beyond boundaries that you didn’t even know existed.

Does this mean that sisterhood doesn’t have any problems / arguments / challenges / issues?

Not at all!

It means that you don’t give the polite answer, or the one that you think the other person wants. You tell is as it is, gently, and with compassion… you share your truth, openly and honestly….and you work through it together.

Sisterhood is raw. Sisterhood is vulnerable. Sisterhood takes courage to create.

Sisterhood is perfectly imperfect.

At times, it’s messy; it is not always easy to be that open, that vulnerable and that real with another person. They will show up and reflect everything that you love about yourself…as well as all the stuff you’d really rather wasn’t there.

But it is also one of the most fulfilling types of relationship you can ever experience.

Experiencing sisterhood first-hand has changed my life.

Would you like to have this kind of relationship with the women in your life?

I have thousands of friends on Facebook, a huge number of friends in my phone…and I can count the number of ‘soul sisters’ I have on my hands.

A short while ago I was speaking to one of my ‘soul sisters’ about how to describe our relationship, what it is at its essence.

Her response described it perfectly: “Unconditional Love”.

The thing is, when you strip all the pretense away, when you allow yourself to be completely and totally seen by another woman something powerful happens. When you share all your hopes, dreams, fears, worries and celebrations…when you share all of you.

When you remove every piece of protection, just being there with nothing more than your heart in your hand, and you connect with another woman who is doing the same thing, you create a real, beautiful, genuine, deep connection that is unlike anything you’ve experienced before.

Through sisterhood we get to explore and understand what it really means to be women. We get to grow together and understand our femininity at a deeper, more visceral level.

If you have these kinds of connections with other women in your life, cherish them. Take time to nurture them, to develop them and to enjoy them.

…and if you haven’t experienced these kinds of connections yet (the key word here being ‘yet’)…then look out for next week’s article because I will be sharing with you how to find your ‘soul sisters’, and how to create this beautiful dynamic of sisterhood with them.

In the meantime, if you’d like to dip your toes in the water…then why not come and join us in the Feminine 1st Facebook Group? It’s a great place to start…

Every single woman deserves connections like this in her life…including you.

If you haven’t found them yet, there’s an incredible world of connection just waiting for you to discover it…

Stay Fabulous,

Claire x

11 replies
  1. Kim Boudreau Smith
    Kim Boudreau Smith says:

    Claire,

    Everything said is so true. I sit in a circle of women here in my area (Detroit area) and this is the most powerful connection of women where we go to the depths of inner personal healing and connections.

    I feel a lot of women are still intimidated to really “open up” in a group of women because of reputation from past behaviors of women being mean. I think this is where we need to be strong and go forth especially to be the change so women can lose this reputation.

    There really isn’t anything like a circle or group of women friends or better known as sisters!

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    • Claire
      Claire says:

      I couldn’t agree more Kim….as I shared in last week’s Thursday thought quote: “When you have the courage to take off all your masks, let down your barriers and show absolutely everything you are to another woman, you open up the door to a depth of connection, friendship & sisterhood that could never exist without taking that first brave step”. You’re right that so many women are afraid because of previous experiences with other women, but having the courage to open up can bring you a depth of relationship that you previously couldn’t even imagine. My wish is for every woman on the planet to have at least one friendship like this in her life.

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  2. Noni Boon
    Noni Boon says:

    I hear you loud and clear. I love groups of women. I have a valuable group of supportive friends who I treasure dearly. I couldn’t live without them.
    Thank you for this article. Really enjoyed it.

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    • Claire
      Claire says:

      You’re welcome Noni…I’m glad to see that so many other women do have relationships like this and I hope we inspire those that don’t to take the risk, open up and discover what’s possible…

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  3. Kristine
    Kristine says:

    I believe in the power of women friendships. I surround myself
    with only the ones who are a positive energy. I honestly don’t know what I would do with out my tribe of beautiful soul sisters.

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  4. Patty Farmer
    Patty Farmer says:

    Claire,
    I love this post for so many reasons… I have been blessed with a circle of sisterhood of 5 women that if the time involved were added together it would span over 100 years!!
    One of the things I love the most is that with all the history shared you never have to explain why you feel the way you do because they already know and also when one of your “sisters” gives you advice it is always based on what “you” could do not them because you are not them and they know it!
    I cannot imagine my life without my sisterhood of women and the life-changing experiences I have been blessed to share with them.

    Patty Farmer, The Networking CEO

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    • Claire
      Claire says:

      I love hearing other women’s stories of sisterhood and how blessed they are…it’s so great to know that so many of these beautiful relationships exist all around the world! x

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  5. Terry Wildemann
    Terry Wildemann says:

    Your comments touched my soul. When I look at my circle of women friends, the ones who hold my heart and soul in their hand, they leap from my sister and daughters to a dear grammar school friend and to what is today a core of international friends, local and afar, that because of technology, allow us to truly connect from the heart. They are my foundation and who I go to when the “coach needs a coach” and someone to listen. We “get” each other without judgement. My personal core group of 8 women of all ages who, with me, have smiled, laughed, cried, screamed, and danced as we hold each other accountable, celebrate life and lift each other up.

    Thank you for a post that left me smiling.

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    • Claire
      Claire says:

      Your words resonate so deeply with my own experience and the relationships that I have with my soul sisters. Thank you for a comment that left me smiling 🙂 x

      Reply

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