We all do it.
We know we do.
We get caught up in our heads, over-thinking things and analyzing them to the ‘nth’ degree.
As women, we have a tendency (in general) to do this more than men do…as men have the ability (as alien as it may seem to us) to do the ‘thinking about nothing’ thing.
I’ve yet to meet a woman who has mastered this skill.
If you saw the link in last week’s newsletter to the hilarious video from Mark Gungor on the difference between men and women’s brains you know exactly what I’m talking about! (If you missed it, you can find it here clicky.me/71dC)
We’re intelligent people, so it’s natural that we would want to use our brains.
We want to work out the answer, solve the problem, find a solution.
But at what point does thinking become over thinking?
Where we analyse EVERYTHING before we say or doing anything.
Where we try and find every single possible permutation of a situation, every possible outcome so that we can ‘be prepared’…regardless of what happens.
As many people say…we get caught in the paralysis of analysis.
One of the main problems with this is that we get so caught up in the thinking that we never actually get to the doing.
When it comes to femininity and polarity however, the challenge with over-thinking is more fundamental.
Because although there are things that you can do to feel more feminine, there are things you can think, even things you can wear…at its core it is a feeling.
A sensation, an emotion, an essence.
A way of being…not of thinking.
If we get caught up in our heads too much we are actually moving away from the essence of what femininity is all about.
So this is just a little reminder.
To get out of your head and into your heart a little more often.
Focus on what you feel, not on what you think.
If you’re ever in doubt over what to do or how to proceed, go back to the core.
Turn down the volume on that little voice in your head (which is probably driving you crazy anyway!) and turn up the volume on your heart.
There are a number of ways to do this, but the one that I always recommend is an exercise at the end of my free MP3 audio program “The First Steps to Femininity”. If you’ve not yet got it, pop over here now to get your free download: http://feminine1st.com/free-gift/
It only takes 8 minutes, and having you’ve done it once with the audio, it’s really easy to do any time, any place.
When you’ve reconnected with your heart, from THAT place ask yourself one simple question.
What is my intuition telling me?
How do you know? It’s easy.
When you’re in this space, feeling really connected, ask yourself the question that you want the answer to, and the first thing that instantaneously comes to mind (before your brain has a chance to kick in and complicate matters!) is what your intuition is telling you.
As we know, femininity is all about authenticity, it comes from the inside out. The best way to find that authenticity is getting back to the heart and working from what you feel, not necessarily what you know.
So, when your brain runs riot and gets carried away…tell it to take the afternoon off and spend some quality time with your heart.