As women we are only too good at looking after everyone else, listening to their problems, meeting their needs and helping them out.
Our nurturing nature means that we can sometimes be so focused on looking after others, that we end up at the bottom of the pile.
Put simply, our needs are met last.
Now, we can keep going like this for a while…but sooner or later it will catch up with us.
There’s a great example that I always like to use when I’m talking about this.
When you get on an airplane, they always have some sort of safety demonstration. They tell you how to find the nearest exits, show you how to fasten the oh-so-sexy yellow life jackets and remind you to take off your Blahniks before taking a ride on the inflatable slides from the emergency doors.
They then tell you the procedure to follow should the cabin lose air pressure.
“In the event of a change of cabin pressure, panels above your head will open revealing oxygen masks.
To start the flow of oxygen, pull the mask towards you. Place it firmly over your nose and mouth, secure the elastic band behind your head, and breathe normally.
If you are travelling with a child or someone who requires assistance, secure your mask on first, and then assist the other person.”
This last statement makes perfect sense. I mean, it’s going to be a little challenging to help anyone else out if you’re passed out on the floor due to lack of oxygen!
So why do we think it’s any different for the rest of life? If we give and give and never take the time to receive or replenish ourselves, it makes sense that at some point our well will run dry.
I’d like to ask you to try something.
(N.B. If you have any heart, respiratory or general health problems then please don’t actually do this, just read the text…you’ll get the idea! 😉 )
Take a really full deep breath in.
Now breathe out completely.
Now try breathing out again, without taking a breath in.
…now breathe out again, still without taking a breath.
You might have a little bit in reserve the first time you breathe out…you might even have a tiny bit left after the second time…but sooner rather than later your body will force you to take a breath in.
Because your body instinctively knows that it needs to replenish its stocks of air.
There are only so many out-breaths it can manage before it absolutely, positively HAS to take a breath in.
This might be a simple example, but it demonstrates that we need to replenish ourselves.
A key part of being a feminine woman is to be “in flow”. That flow needs to go two ways…both in and out.
It’s so important to take time for you. To rest, to recuperate, to replenish yourself, in order that you can continue to help and nurture those around you.
So next week I’m going to be giving you a list of ten top ways to replenish yourself. Some ideas for you to try to start giving back to yourself and putting yourself first…for a short while every day or every week.
But in the meantime I want you to think about ways in which you can replenish yourself.
What would be the best ‘you time’ for you?
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