How many times have you met someone new and one of the first things you’ve asked them is ‘so what do you do?’
How many times a day do you say to yourself “Oh I must remember to do _______”
How many things to you have on your ‘to do’ list?
It’s so important to remember that we are human beings not human doings!
Is what we do important? Of course it is.
I learned a long time ago that I can do almost anything I want if I really put my mind to it. (I’m still working on teleporting to save travel time…I’ll keep you posted… 😉 )
But what you are doing isn’t as important as who you are being.
You see, who you are being radiates out of you, whether you broadcast it or not. People can feel it from you, they can see it in you, they just know.
I had a really great experience a couple of years ago that really woke me up to this fact.
If you know me, you know that I’m a hugger.
I love hugs.
I’ll hug pretty much anyone….friends, family, strangers, old or young, male or female…I’m an equal opportunity hugger.
When I meet people for the first time a lot of people (especially here in the UK) will put out their hand for me to shake. If it’s appropriate for the situation (and I get the sense from them that they will be open to it) my response is always “I don’t do handshakes, I do hugs”…and give them a big hug.
I’m known in several places around the world for being the perpetuator of the ‘squishy hug’ – a hug where you completely envelope the other person, and the two of you just melt or ‘squish’ into each other.
I even had a couple of T-shirts custom made with the words “Free Hugs” printed on the front, so that I could wear them out and about and have an excuse to hug anyone along the way.
My name is Claire, and I’m a hugaholic.
(Waits for the response…“Hi Claire”…)
So hugging is my thing.
A couple of years ago I was in a salsa club in London just standing on my own, watching the dancers spinning and twirling around the dancefloor. I was off in my own little world when I noticed a young woman I didn’t know and had never seen before walking towards me.
When she stopped in front of me, she looked me in the eye and simply said, “Can I have a hug please?”
Although I was a little surprised by the direct request, I didn’t hesitate for a second. “Of course you can!” I said, and gave her a huge hug.
She thanked me, and disappeared from the club.
When she left, I looked down and was surprised when I realised that I wasn’t wearing one of my “Free Hugs” T-shirts.
This club was one that I used to go to regularly, and I knew most of the people there. I’d never seen this girl before, and I never saw her again.
I was surrounded by people at the time, but for some reason I was the person that this girl approached for a hug.
Someone else might have turned her down, or looked at her in a strange way…but she walked straight up to someone who would be only too happy to give her hug!
You see, who you are being radiates out whether you broadcast it or not. It doesn’t matter if you’re actually ‘doing it’ right there and then, if it’s who you are being on the inside…people can feel it.
So the question is, who are you being?