I’m not a fan of stereotypes…in any area of life.
These days it seems that stereotypes are more like caricatures.
It is all about focusing on the extremes, rather than the norms.
I frequently find the concepts of femininity and feminism are referred to as if they are opposites.
Ironically, if you look feminism up in the dictionary, one of the definitions is “feminine character”!
I believe the reason these concepts are thought of as opposites is the caricature factor.
When the word feminist comes up, what is the image that appears in your mind?
Often people get an image of an aggressive and angry woman looking to burn her bra on the nearest bonfire and ready to take on any man (before he’s even realised that a battle is taking place!)
Likewise, when the word feminine comes up, what picture do you see?
People frequently see a picture of a woman dressed from head to to in pink fluffiness, with blonde hair and an attitude similar to that of Alicia Silverstone’s character in the film ‘Clueless’.
Neither image is an accurate representation of the women who fall into these categories.
Both are actually pretty offensive!
But what is the reality?
Femininity is all about embracing the natural qualities of a woman.
Feminism is focused on proving that there is an equality between men and women.
From my point of view, the reason that people believe that you can’t be feminine and a feminist is because of one word.
They mistake equality with being ‘the same’.
It is perfectly possible for two things to be equal and opposite…and that is the key.
Life is filled with forces that are equal and opposite: Dark and Light, Right and Wrong, Hot and Cold…the list goes on.
Male and Female is another example….equal but opposite.
For a woman to be a feminist she doesn’t need to believe that Men and Women are the same…she just believes that we are equal.
It is absolutely possible for you to be both feminine and a feminist.
I know…because I am 🙂
I’m not really a fan of the label ‘feminist’ as I feel that it is one-sided and has been misrepresented over the years. I’d actually prefer the term ‘equalist’…but I’m not sure that it would catch on! 🙂
I definitely consider myself a feminine woman.
I love being a woman and embracing all of our fantastic feminine qualities.
I also believe that we are equal to men.
Equal and opposite.
…and when we’re in balance, that’s when the magic happens.
How about you?
Are you a feminine woman?
Are you a feminist?
Are you both?
What do you think?