Today’s Fabulous Friday Female is Alanis Morissette!

Fabulous Friday Female, Alanis MorissetteI’m always a big supporter of anyone, male or female, who does their part to raise the profile of challenges and imbalances that the world is facing regarding masculinity and femininity.

…and I’m especially pleased when they acknowledge and share that everyone has both masculine and feminine inside them and it’s finding the balance that’s important!

…and earlier this month Alanis Morissette did exactly that in a fantastic article that blends her own story with her views on how embracing the feminine could be the answer to a lot of challenges that we are facing.

So I wanted to share the essence of the article through some powerful excerpts.

It is a brave act indeed for both men and women to embrace, rather than shame or attempt to eradicate the feminine.

The ideal vision, in theory, would be to find the delicate and meaningful blend of both the masculine and feminine, and the acceptance of the fact that we all fall somewhere unique on this continuum … and that it is a continuum.

The embodiment of the empowered feminine and masculine, in theory, would “show up” in people who possess varying degrees of both qualities. The most important part being that what we had on our hands was less a gender war, and more of a resistance to the masculine or feminine within each of us.

So it becomes less about “men hating women/women hating men” and becomes more about the fear and loathing of the feminine within our own hearts and minds, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Importantly and secondarily, it’s the disempowerment of both the masculine and the feminine that is also the culprit here.

What has been grossly overlooked throughout age immemorial is that both aspects need each other for wholeness! And that unification of both, in all its forms, (meaning peace, connection, healing, inspiration, prosperity of all kinds) is our birthright.

So the idea of true partnership and connection (inner and outer)—which so many are saying is the way of the future and will ultimately stave off the destruction of our planet—requires an empowered version of both the masculine (action, generosity, solution, confidence, boldness, industry, strength etc.) and the feminine (vulnerability, tenderness, yielding, humility, grace, intuition, heart, etc.) aspects to come together, seeing the need for the other. And that this unification and complement will show up in every area of our lives: work, romance, family, health, business, art, and even politics.

So as it turns out, it’s the disempowerment of the masculine and the fear of the feminine in us that is patriarchy. The fear of this delicate and fierce feminine has more to do with our fear of being vulnerable again, getting hurt again, than it does by our actual distaste for the beauty of the feminine and Her qualities. But our avoidance and resistance to Her is torturing men and women alike, and tearing apart the fabric of what could be a very harmonious society.

Liberation is only possible with the integration of these two aspects, equally respected for their unique and powerful contribution. Not in evidencing these qualities equally every day by homogenizing and overriding our unique essential temperaments (not possible!) and contexts, but rather simply accepting these parts, even loving them, in ourselves, and in others.

Creating inner partnership between both the masculine and feminine would render us all humanists, life-ists, and wholeness-ists, rather than patriarch-ists or feminists/matriarchists.

And so, by accepting and embracing the feminine within us, and flying in the face of an overly masculinized (of the disempowered variety) society (with all of its disconnected and lonely results), we support this empowered and connected brave new world we all dream of, and, allow this union to serve as a direct portal to the Divine.

…and I encourage you to read the full article here, it’s a very interesting read.

So please join me today in acknowledging Alanis and celebrating her courage in using her voice to share how important embracing and finding our own unique balance of the feminine and masculine is to us and our future x


As you know, I would love to acknowledge, honour and celebrate the women who have inspired you as well.

So if there is someone that you believe should feature as a Fabulous Friday Female, then send me an email ( with 3 simple details:Who is your Fabulous Friday Female? (Her name and location in the world)

Why is she a Fabulous Friday Female to YOU? (How do you know her? What does she do? In what way is she inspiring?)

A photo or link to a picture of her online (if there is a reason that you would prefer not to include a photo, just let me know)

So help me to share with all of our lovely ladies the real women who inspire YOU.

…and remember, as always, to Stay Fabulous too!


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