Between Sheryl Sandberg comment sharing how we have too few women in leadership on the TED stage and various news reports from all over the world about how women are underrepresented in business….it’s clear that this is a conversation that is sparking a lot of interest.
Women in leadership = feminine leaders?
The thing is, as we’re all acutely aware, women in leadership does not necessarily equate to feminine leadership.
We’ve all seen women in business who are doing a better job at being men than their male counterparts. They’ve taken on the reins, slapped on their masculine masks and are leading the charge by showing very clearly who is wearing the trousers (or pants, depending where you’re based!)
I can’t blame women for taking this approach, I did it myself for a large number of years, and it’s often done because women in leadership think that’s what it takes to be successful – they’re just modeling the men who have been successful before them. It can also simply happen because the women in question have never seen or been shown another way of doing it.
But in taking this approach we end up missing out on tapping into our innate strengths. The natural abilities we have as feminine women that can lead to successes in business that we never realised possible.
Women in leadership who tap into their feminine unleash a powerful force.
Having dealt with leadership the masculine way for many years, I know how it works. I know that in certain circumstances it’s beneficial and in others it really doesn’t hit the mark.
But feminine leadership is a concept that I’ve only become familiar with in the last few years…and I know personally the difference that it can make.
I’m the leader of a women’s community here in London called Tribal Truth, and I’ve had times where I’ve stepped into leading in a masculine way. I’ve taken everything on myself, I’ve been sure to keep my emotions in check and stay strong and I’ve not let anyone see what’s going on behind the scenes.
Quite frankly, at the times I’ve done this it has been lonely, painfully challenging and has felt like a continuous uphill battle.
For a woman who is feminine at her core, trying to lead in this way is at best ineffective and at worst quite detrimental.
When connecting to my femininity and leading from that place it always inspires a powerful reaction in the group I’m leading.
By connecting to my feminine and leading through emotionally connectedness, through building relationships, through collaboration rather than competition, through being openhearted and vulnerable the results are incredible. By sharing my truth, and being seen for who I am, rather than a perception I am trying to create I inspire greater connection, respect, loyalty and support.
Even more importantly it gives those I’m leading to be seen for who they are and where they’re at, rather than feeling that they have to pretend to be something or somewhere they’re not.
It means you’re working WITH your team, rather than above them…walking along side them rather than in front of them.
Leading by example rather than by instruction.
By blending the best of our feminine traits with the masculine skills we’re so accustomed to, we find the ‘sweet spot’ that brings out the best in everyone.
Raking a purely masculine approach only gives us half the tools…as does taking a purely feminine approach…it’s when the women in leadership work WITH their male counterparts and each bring their strengths to the table, that’s when the magic happens.
Women in leadership often feel like they’re on their own
I’ve been very lucky. When taking the tentative steps along the path of discovering what my own personal brand of feminine leadership, I’ve not been alone…I’ve had a tribe of incredible feminine leaders supporting me every step of the way. Helping, guiding, reflecting back to me, supporting, sharing, acknowledging, celebrating,
…and leading this collection of women is a good friend of mine Tanya Paluso.
Tanya’s heart-centred commitment to ensuring that women step fully into their potential as feminine leaders is parallel to none. She stands for every woman who works with her with compassion, love and a focus on holding space for them to push through their self-imposed limitations and into the power that resides inside them.
Through working with Tanya as the London Tribe leader I have experienced breakthroughs in my feminine leadership that I wasn’t expecting, and have stepped into my power in a way that has transformed myself and the women in my tribe.
Tanya’s consistent ability to put herself out there in a vulnerable and inspiring way has allowed me to see even more clearly the power of feminine leadership and by acting as my mirror she has shown me the path to embodying it in every area of my life.
It’s by seeing how I respond to her open, honest, vulnerable leadership that I see how other people respond to my own.
In the last few weeks I’ve realised how many incredible women I have in my network and how much they have to share with you. Tanya is one of these women and she has created a complimentary video series called “Leading in Truth” which she has allowed me to share with you.
Through this video series Tanya is sharing:
- Why leadership is your key to freedom.
- The Wheel of Co-creative Leadership, a cutting edge style in the new paradigm of business that we’ve been developing at Tribal Truth.
- The 5 Essential Elements of leadership that will help you overcome the most common obstacles that women face when stepping into their power.
- The #1 secret to starting an international organization so you can apply this powerful process to create your own movement! (She will teach you how I took Tribal Truth across the pond to London without knowing anyone)
So if you would like to learn more about how femininity can help women in leadership and how Tanya’s own experiences can help you to step into your own power as a feminine leader then you can find the details here: goo.gl/bkObD
In addition, Tanya is doing a free call on Feminine Leadership later today! On this complimentary call, you will learn:
- The 3 biggest obstacles to building teamwork and partnerships and how to overcome them
- Why you need to expand your capacity to hold more in order to reach more people
- How vulnerability will make you a more magnetic, authentic and effective leader
- The #1 thing you must say to someone when asking them for their partnerships that will result in more YESes and long term growth
- Her secret formula to building a movement quickly from nothing
I think it is so important for women in leadership to step into their power, and to do it together in collaboration.
Join the call TODAY at 12pm PST (8pm GMT):goo.gl/BRnkC
…and in the meantime I encourage you to think about how femininity can help you, as well as other women in leadership to be the best leader they can be.