So last week I shared with you the first three things to remember when it comes to femininity…who you’re doing it for, remembering to keep a balance between the feminine and the masculine, and realizing that there’s not a one-size-fits-all answer.
As I mentioned last week, femininity is something that comes from the inside out, you become more feminine by feeling more feminine. Obviously what feels more feminine is different for all of us.
If you want to be more feminine, you want to feel more feminine.
So this is where you get to have some fun, because you get to create your very own unique femininity formula…this is the combination of experiences that make you feel most feminine…and therefore bring your femininity shining out.
Now, because the combination is different for each individual woman, I can’t tell you what yours will be (that’s something that you get to enjoy discovering for yourself!) but what I can do to help you to begin is to provide a little ‘feminine buffet’ for you to choose some ideas from.
Have some fun finding your way to feel more feminine
So here is a selection of some of the things that myself, my friends, my clients and contacts around the world have in their own unique femininity formulas to inspire you. 18 ways for you to instantly feel more feminine….
Get back to Nature – Nature is a well-known way to reconnect with your feminine, but the key is to find the area of nature that resonates most with you. It might be walking along a beach, spending time in the mountains, listening to a river, wandering through a woodland area or forest, standing out in the rain, climbing trees, hiking along a country trail, the choice is yours…
Discover your animal instincts – For a lot of women, spending time with animals really brings out their feminine, whether its pet dogs, cats, hamsters or like me, going and feeding the horses down the road from where I live!
Nurture yourself – Looking after yourself and your own needs is a great way to feel more feminine, and the great news is that there are a whole range of ways you can do this! You could run a bubble bath with candles, music and a glass of wine, treat yourself to a manicure and pedicure, give yourself a facial, book an indulgent massage or simply allow yourself some R&R time, to name just a few.
Get sense-itive – Getting connected to your senses is a great way to get connected to your feminine too. With 5 senses to ignite with this is a great one to play with and get creative…and it doesn’t have to be extravagant. Just noticing the feel of the water running down your skin when you’re in the shower can be enough to make you present to your senses. One of the best ways I’ve found to engage all of your senses is cooking your favourite meal and paying particularly close attention to the way that the food looks, they way that it smells, the sounds you hear when you eat it, the feeling of the textures on your tongue and the tastes you experience. You could wear something that feels smooth or soft against your skin, eat something that will taste delicious, wear a favourite perfume, appreciate a piece of art with vibrant colours or listen to a favorite piece of music. Whatever it is that you choose to do, pay close attention to the experience of your senses, allow yourself to notice things you’d not noticed before.
Be, don’t do – Doing is a very masculine trait, whereas the feminine is more about just being. So try throwing out the to-do list every now and again, going with the flow and just allowing yourself to be. You might be surprised at how much more feminine you feel.
Let go of the need to control – With the need to control comes tension, and tension is one of the fastest ways to jump out of the feminine and straight into the masculine. So when we learn to let go of control, we often connect more to our feminine core in the process. The great thing is that control is nothing more than an illusion, as the only thing we really have the ability to control is ourselves, so let the control go, and let your feminine flow.
Get into your body – A lot of women find that something that gets them back into their body also helps get them back into their feminine. These days us women spend a lot of time in our heads, using logic, analyzing, thinking and worrying, and none of these are conducive to feeling more feminine. So something that helps us get out of our heads and into our bodies can definitely help us to connect to our feminine nature. Movement is a great way of doing this, whether through something like yoga or taking a dance class, but it can be as simple as just paying attention to a part of your body you’re not normally aware of. Taking a couple of moments to lightly move your hands over your hips, your stomach or your legs brings your attention out of your head and into your body….and often back into your feminine too.
Get into your heart – As I mentioned above, we women spend far too much time these days in our logical, intellectual, analysis-based minds, worrying, stressing and feeling overwhelmed. So as one of the key aspects of the feminine is being emotionally connected, finding a way out of your hear and into your heart can definitely help you to feel more feminine. Simply taking a moment to stop and appreciate the things that you feel grateful for, or to think about someone you love unconditionally can be your express-way back to your heart and, in turn, back to your feminine.
The good news is that there are many of these ideas to share with you, the bad news is that I could only fit nine into this week’s article!
So come back next week to hear the other nine suggestions for you to try in your unique femininity formula….