How much time do you spend with your friends..?

Last week I shared an article on the blog about the 10 friends that every girl needs…and how important it is to have a variety of different people in your life that meet your friendship needs.

Well, it’s all very well having these people in your life…but that is only half the story.

I’d like to ask you a question….

When I talked about the 10 friends that every girl needs I asked you how many of them you have.

So the next question is…when was the last time that you made time to spend with each of them?

We all know how busy life gets with work, relationships, the gym, families…there is a seemingly unending list of things that fill up our diaries.

We’re already a quarter of the way through 2012, and I bet if you look back you would say…”where has the last three months gone?”

How much time in that three-month period have you spent on pure, unadulterated time with your closest girlfriends?

Night out with the girls!

Night out with the girls!

The reason that I’m asking this is that the weekend before last weekend I had a brilliant time. I spent Saturday night with a fantastic group of people that ended up as a night boogying away with the girls. It was great. It was fun. It was just what the doctor ordered.

My Sunday was the way that all Sundays are meant to be. Me and one of my closest girlfriends started with a late brunch, catching up on everything that had been going on in life recently. We then wiled away the day wandering around Camden market in North London and spent late afternoon having cocktails and dinner in the sun on a roof terrace. Our evening consisted of drinks and snacks over a funny movie and more girly chats.

Cocktails in the Sun

Cocktails in the Sun

It was everything I needed right now…and I realised how long it had been since I had made time in my busy life to spend time just being with the girls.

Spending time with ‘the girls’ is so important. Reconnecting with the women in your life, having fun, catching up, swapping stories, just being together is something that we all need to do on a regular basis. Facebook and Twitter are all very well for day-to-day chit chat, but they are no substitute for time spent together in person.

I know that life has a habit of getting in the way of these sorts of things…but that only happens if we let it.

My best friend and I have the craziest of lifestyles. We’re both always manically busy and have to manage our diaries like a military operation. But it is so important for us to have time to see each other that once every few months we sit down and plan time, at least once a month, for us to see each other.

So the question becomes, how important is it for you to spend time with your friends?

So I’d like to set you a little 5-step challenge:

  1. Go back to the list of 10 friends that every girl needs and work out which of your friends belong on that list.
  2. Work out when you last saw each of the friends on that list in person.
  3. Contact each of the friends, especially those you’ve not seen in a while, and make a date to see them at some point in the next 2 months.
  4. When you see them, arrange the time that you’re going to see them next so that it doesn’t become just a one-off.
  5. Enjoy your time with your girls! 🙂

Stay Fabulous!

Claire x

3 replies
  1. Heather Waring
    Heather Waring says:

    So much in here Claire for consideration. Spending time with my girlfriends is so important to me and something I have never allowed to drop even when I’ve been in love. I’ve never given up my friends. That’s also the reason that Alan is the one I married, he never expected me to drop them and I have all the freedom I spend time with those important women.

    In here though, are things I too need to consider and that’s exactly what I’ll do, perhaps today. I’m still on holidays so this is for me and the journal, the email or fb and my calendar. On April 25th though I’m off for 8 days with one of my closest girl friends to put the world to rights and enjoy the silence as we spend 6 days walking in rural France.

  2. Nik
    Nik says:

    Great article! I enjoy taking one night a week to spend with a girlfriend usually just @ one of our houses chatting etc. however my husband thinks one night a week is too much even though it’s only 2-3 hrs since he doesn’t do the same with his buddies.
    Can you suggest any additional articles to help him understand and see how common it is for us to want and need time with the girls?

    • Claire
      Claire says:

      Hi Nik,

      Thanks so much for your comments…I understand how challenging it can be when the person who you are in a relationship doesn’t have the same needs as you and therefore doesn’t understand them completely. One approach that you might want to take to this would be to find out from him something that he would really like to do every week (which is completely about him and his needs) whether it’s having some time to himself just to decompress, spending time with the boys or just enjoying a particular hobby so that you’re both getting ‘time for you’ to do the things that you want to do, you’re just spending it in different ways. Regarding your request about other articles which mention this, there are several out there (there are a couple here:, but I would recommend talking to him about it from the point of view that you both have different needs, neither are right or wrong, they’re just different…and see if you can find a compromise that works for you both. Good luck!


      Claire x


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