No, I’m not talking about walking down the road with a Manolo Blahnik bag in one hand and a Jimmy Choo bag in the other.
I’m talking about balance in life.
We hear about balance all the time.
Balance the cheque book.
In the balance.
The balancing act.
A balanced relationship.
It seems to feature in almost every area of life.
But how much time do we actually take to think about balance?
…and what on earth does it have to do with femininity?
Well, a lot of people think that masculinity and femininity are completely separate and because they are total opposites that they have nothing to do with each other.
When in actual fact, the reality is that each contains a part of the other.
I’m going to use the Yin Yang symbol here to demonstrate what I’m talking about.
For those of you who aren’t familiar with it, the concept of yin yang is used to describe how polar opposites (such as masculinity and femininity) are interconnected and interdependent.
With the Yin Yang symbol, the white represents the masculine, the black represents the feminine…and as you can see, each side has a small circle of the other inside it.
A truly masculine man, has a small element of femininity inside him, as a truly feminine woman has a small element of masculine.
The challenge that a lot of people face is that they struggle to getting the balance right.
Men have been told for so many years that they need to be in touch with their feminine side, that for many of them the small circle of femininity has grown to the size where it’s bigger than the masculine part.
Women have been told that they should ‘man up’, ‘play with the boys’ and “stop being so emotional” so many times that our masculine side has all but wiped out the feminine part altogether.
When the balance of our mindset and our behaviour no longer matches the balance of who we are at our core, that’s when we start feeling drained, stressed, unhappy and overwhelmed.
If you are a feminine woman at heart who is acting like a burly 6ft bloke, the chances are that you’re not very happy.
So what is the answer?
The B word. Balance.
It’s knowing that you have an element of masculinity inside you and for short periods of time when the situation demands it, it’s perfectly ok to step into your masculine and utilise that part of your personality.
The key is to be conscious about the fact that you are stepping into the masculine. You then need to be conscious of the best time to release the masculine and step back into your feminine again.
So how do you know when the balance is right?
Honestly, the best way is to just trust yourself, you know better than anyone what balance is right for you.
If you’re not quite sure then look back to the Ying Yang symbol…it will give you an idea of the proportions to start with.
Then just play with it and listen to what your intuition is telling you 🙂
Next time we’ll look at how you can identify whether you are in your masculine or just in a strong feminine mode, as well as a few quick tips on how to get back to your feminine quickly.
So enjoy ladies, find your balance, and remember to Stay Fabulous!
P.S. If you haven’t seen it yet, check out this short video message, from me, to you, with love http://feminine1st.com/a-short-message-from-me-to-you/ x