So in Part One of Six Steps to achieving your resolutions the feminine way we talked about ‘What is your Why?’, Being Realistic, Focusing on the next step and enjoying the journey.
And here, as promised, are the final three steps to achieving your resolutions the feminine way:
4. Take time to recognise and reward
When you do something, anything, towards your resolution or goal, take the time to feel good about it. Recognise what you’ve done, and reward yourself even if it’s just with a smile and a metaphorical (or physical!) pat on the back. It is so important for your momentum to take the time to recognise the progress you’re making (big or small) in order to stay motivated. Be proud of what you’ve achieved and take the time to acknowledge yourself and your actions.
Remember, nurturing is a key part of your femininity. So many women focus their nurturing nature externally and forget that the most important person to nurture is themselves. So make sure you nurture and support yourself by recognising and rewarding yourself as you go along.
5. Don’t persecute yourself!
The flip side of the previous point is to remember to be kind to yourself along the way. Sometimes things won’t work out exactly as you had planned, or your won’t achieve what you wanted exactly how or when you expected to. That’s OK. What’s important is for you to be OK with the fact that it’s OK.
To give you an example, my first big thing for 2012 is to sort out my morning routine in order to set me up well for the rest of the day. I have other goals which relate to my business and my personal life, but I figured if I get my morning routine sorted it will give me more time and energy for those other things later on.
So my aim this morning was to get up, and do some writing, a short meditation and some exercise before I sat down to work for the day.
I set my alarm for 5.30am last night in order to give me time to get it all done.
When the alarm went off, I got up immediately (yes, I was shocked too!) and went next door to do my morning writings (a technique I’ll share with you in a later blog post). I then had a 20 minute meditation before getting ready for my run. A half hour run later I came back to shower, wash my hair, change and get ready to sit down to work.
However….there was a small issue.
I had wanted to be sat down to work by 8am.
I wasn’t ready to start work until about 8:40am.
At this point I had a choice.
In the past, I would have taken this as an opportunity to berate myself for not getting things done the way I intended, and being late in sitting down to start work.
But having learned my lessons on this, instead I decided to allow myself a moment to feel good about achieving all of the things I had wanted to do before starting work. I felt great from the run, and was really pleased that I’d got up when I planned to and got straight on with everything I’d wanted to do.
So I was a little later than intended, but I can always adjust as the days and weeks go on. The main thing for me was to feel great about achieving what I had set out to do and allowing myself a moment to acknowledge that.
6. Buddy up!
It is so important to have support when you’re trying to make any change in your life. If you feel like you’re doing it alone it feels that little bit harder than if you have people who are rooting for you along the way. So in order to give yourself the best chance get yourself a buddy. A buddy can be anyone. It can be a family member, it can be a friend, it can be a person from work, a person at the gym…anyone. As long as they can and will fulfil the following criteria:
- They will keep you accountable. This means they know what your goal is, they know what you’re doing to achieve it, and they will do their best to keep you on your path by positively supporting you.
- They know your why. You have explained to them what you are doing AND why you are doing it. They know why it is important to you, what benefits you will experience from achieving it and can use this information to support you along the way.
- They will positively support you. They will be your cheerleading squad every step of the way, recognising and acknowledging all the steps that you are taking.
- They will remind you of your why if necessary. If you appear to be wavering on your path, they will use questions to remind you about what you are doing, and your reasons in order to re-focus you. It’s often good to actually give your buddy the questions you would like to be asked if you appear to be having a difficult day.
- Ideally you will also be able to be their buddy. Buddies work best when it is a two-way process. It’s much easier to receive support if you are also able to give it…and vice versa. It is also easier to know what support will help your buddy if you are trying to achieve something and need support yourself. You don’t have to have the same goal…you just both want support in what you are setting out to achieve.
- They will celebrate with you when you reach your target! 😀
Make sure that you choose someone that you can trust to meet all of the above criteria (there’s no point having someone who will support you when you’re doing well and who will criticise you if you make a mistake!!) and if you can support them at the same time as they support you, even better.
As feminine women, community is vitally important to us, so if you can find a supportive buddy that’s a great first step. If you can find a supportive community, even better! If you want some help finding a buddy, or some support along the way then pop over to the Feminine 1st Facebook group where you will find hundreds of fabulous women who will cheer you on and offer support on your journey.
So there you have it, the six steps to achieving your resolutions the feminine way! Good luck…and remember to enjoy the journey! 😀