Believe me, I know how you feel.
Life these days is incredibly hectic for us women.
We have our jobs and careers to think about, we have our personal lives to juggle, we are thinking about our relationships, our health and fitness, our hobbies, our homes, our finances, our families…the list is never ending.
Our feminine tends to take a back seat
Often in order to cope with the craziness of our day-to-day lives women jump into ‘take control mode’.
I think that by seeing this sign around us all the time we just assume that all women wear capes and are secretly superheroes!
In going into our ‘superhero mode’ we end up taking on a number of very masculine traits, we become very analytical, driven, single-minded and focused on just ‘getting the job done’.
Finding the balance between our masculine and feminine
As we all know, we have both masculine and feminine energies inside us. Even if we’re primarily a more feminine person at our core, utilising our masculine traits when appropriate is not only helpful…but sometimes it’s necessary to deal with a given situation. It’s all about finding the right balance.
The challenge that we often have is that with all of the pressure and stress that we feel (either as a result of external situations, or more likely that we put on ourselves) we can spend more and more time in the masculine and less and less in the feminine.
This can lead to us feeling drained, unhappy and very unfulfilled.
Therefore it’s incredibly helpful to know how to quickly get back into your feminine in order to relax and feel like yourself again! 🙂
So what’s the answer?
How to find your feminine fast
The answer is that it’s different for everyone…but it’s really easy to find out what it is for you.
The quickest and easiest way to get back to your feminine is to reconnect with who you are at heart….and the quickest way to do that is to ask yourself what it was that you enjoyed doing when you were a child….say at 6 or 7 years old.
What was it at that age which made you absolutely light up from the inside?
What made you smile?
What made you laugh?
What would you do whenever you had a free second of time?
It could be absolutely anything.
For me it was dancing, singing or spending time with animals. Whenever my parents asked me what I wanted to do for the day, if there was an opportunity to feed some animals I was a very happy girl.
When we used to go for London for a day, the outing wasn’t complete without a trip to feed the pigeons in Leicester square.
I did ballet, tap, modern dancing and you couldn’t stop me from singing all over the house.
Any one of these things made me absolutely light up from the inside out.
For other people it’s different. I have one friend who used to pretend she was doing her own radio show with a little tape recorder and another who was happiest when she was swimming. It could be drawing or creating something, reading a book, listening to your favourite music….the list of possibilities is infinite.
…and when you’ve worked out what it is for you…the fastest way back to your feminine is to find a way to do it now.
For me, I dance salsa, I’ve joined a local ‘funky’ choir and on a regular basis I walk down to a field near my house and feed the horses that live there. If I feel like a dance, but there’s no salsa on that day, I take 10 minutes, blast my favourite tracks in my bedroom and dance like I’m a 5 year old again! 😀
…and the key is to do it until it makes you smile…until you feel that warm fuzzy feeling inside that you had when you were a child.
Voila! Back to your feminine in the blink of an eye…
…and now you know what makes you feel like this, it’s a great idea to arrange to do it on a regular basis. Put a note in your diary as a reminder, make a little time every week and take this time for you.
Because it’s far more enjoyable to find your feminine BEFORE life gets overwhelming, rather than after!
P.S. If you enjoyed this post, you might also like to check out this one about “What IS Feminine?”