what did the men have to say

So what did the guys have to say?

what did the men have to saySo…what did the guys have to say when we asked them about femininity?

Well..in true Feminine 1st fashion I shall be enlisting the help of the family fortunes sound effects to assist me in demonstrating the results. So when you see the play arrow after the words “Our survey said…” hit it to see what the result was!

So…the first question on our survey was “How would you describe a feminine woman?” Obviously I don’t have space to share all of the answers the guys sent through here…but I wanted to share a couple of them that I thought you would find interesting:

A feminine woman is warm, vibrant, lively, passionate, loving, youthful, creative, spontaneous.

A feminine woman is in touch with her interconnectivity with all. She is unconditional with her love and confident in her femininity. Her power shows up through her gentle, caring nature, her inner beauty, her ability to see the whole play. Her strength shows up in times of crisis when she’s the first with a bandage, the first to comfort and console, the last to complain about her own circumstances. She is selfless and graceful, elegant and subtle, gentle and powerful, warrior like in times of need, earth mother to children of all ages.

A feminine women is a women who takes care about herself and others by pleasing the body, mind and spirit.

Fantastic guys! That most definitely requires a: [audio:http://feminine1st.com/wp-content/uploads/ff-ding.mp3|titles=ff-ding]

We then asked if they thought feminine = weak and our survey said…[audio:http://feminine1st.com/wp-content/uploads/ff-ehurgh.mp3|titles=ff-ehurgh]

100% of the men said they disagreed with the fact that feminine = weak. Brilliant 😀

Next we asked if they found femininity in a woman attractive…and our survey said…[audio:http://feminine1st.com/wp-content/uploads/ff-ding.mp3|titles=ff-ding]

A whopping 100% of the guys agreed that femininity was attractive to them. Not a big surprise to me as most of the men who have spoken to me about femininity have said how attractive a woman is who is confident and comfortable in her femininity…glad to see the survey has confirmed the same! 🙂

So next we ask what were the positive aspects of feminine women. Again, there were too many answers to list here in full, but I’ve pulled out a selection of answers:

Willingness to lead by letting go of the control strings in a situation

Strength, confidence, elegance, unconditionality, selflessness

Inspiration, Harmony, Balance, Joy, Life, energetic, powerful, Emotion, Love, Connection

Intelligence, kindness, energy, sympathy, competence, vulnerability, strength, weakness, ambition, honesty, loads of good qualities.

Her attitude. Her presence. Her natural ability to be.

I couldn’t agree more guys.

So…we then asked them what they thought the negative aspects of feminine women (as if there were such a thing! 😉 ) and I found the results very interesting. Here is a selection:


Lack of focus

Some use it as a tool to get what she wants or plays games with it

None. People are best to be how they are.

Femininity in the modern age has been misinterpreted and has limited women from being embraced in their full expression.

I have to say, I agreed with most of the answers that came in on this topic.

For example, the suggestion that some women use it as a tool to get what they want is an example of the “Fake Feminine” which I talked about in a recent blog post (not actually authentic feminine, but I can understand why it’s been given as an example of the negative side of things). I also wanted to say how much I agree with the last of the comments I’ve included. I couldn’t agree more that there are a lot of misperceptions and misunderstandings about femininity which have prevented women from embracing it and enjoying it fully. Luckily we’re here to help dispel some of those myths 😉

So then we asked whether the guys thought feminine women could be successful in business…and our survey said…[audio:http://feminine1st.com/wp-content/uploads/ff-ding.mp3|titles=ff-ding]

A huge 89% of the guys agreed that feminine women could be successful in business.

I couldn’t agree more…I believe men and women both have the ability to be successful in business, but the approach for a feminine woman is just different. When someone is true to themselves and being authentic, they are more likely to be successful in their endeavours than if they are forcing things or trying to be someone they are not.

Next we asked if the guys respected feminine women…and there was no debate at all!

Our survey said…[audio:http://feminine1st.com/wp-content/uploads/ff-ding.mp3|titles=ff-ding]

100% agreed that they respect feminine women…fabulous!

We then asked whether they would like the women in their life to be more feminine and our survey said…[audio:http://feminine1st.com/wp-content/uploads/ff-ding.mp3|titles=ff-ding]

89% of the men who responded confirmed that they would like the women in their life to be more feminine…which matches up very well with our female survey where the majority of the women confirmed that they would like to be perceived as more feminine by other people. It’s good to know we’re all on the same page! 😀

So then we asked the boys what aspect of a woman affects how feminine she is most.

As with the ladies there was more of an even split on this one, but mindset still came out on top with 56% of the vote. Appearance and Behaviour both scored 22%. As we mentioned in the last survey results, they can all have an affect on how feminine a woman feels but as the mindset is the key to both how a woman behaves and her appearance, I would have to agree with the majority here and say that mindset plays the biggest part.

When we asked for some examples of women in the public eye who the guys think are good examples of feminine women there was no stopping them!! The list is HUGE…so I will only list some of them here…and also point out that there were some similarities with the answers the ladies gave: Sophia Loren, Kate Middleton, Princess Diana, Scarlett Johansson, Jennifer Anniston, Anne Hathaway…I could be here for a long time listing them all!

As a final note I asked the guys if they had any other comments to add…and I wanted to share a couple of these with you:

Thanks for asking the guys!

I prefer women who use their feminine sides full on but also balance in their masculine energy to be COMPLETE women.

I believe that femininity is a quality, something to celebrate and respect.

More please! 😉

I have to say that balance is essential to any part of life, and something which I will be covering in one of my blog posts in the next couple of weeks.

…and I’m not sure if the “more please!” refers to femininity or the content on the site…but either way you won’t be disappointed! 🙂

I wanted to say thank you so much to the men who took the time to respond to these questions and give us their opinions. It has been great to see how in sync the answers from the men and the women have been. I’m sure it will be interesting for the women reading this blog to see how the guys have responded.

So thanks again for the nudge to get you guys involved!

…and to the ladies, I hope the synchronicity of the answers between the men and the women has been as nice for you to see as it has been for me!

Stay Fabulous!

Claire x

6 replies
  1. Cathie Heart
    Cathie Heart says:

    I love this blog post but I do have a question / observation. Wouldn’t most of the guys answering and reading this blog already be open to feminine women as well rounded people .. rather than just objects of facination? Just a thought I had and wondered if guys would feel threatened by meeting a strong successful feminine woman? Love the feedback you’ve listed above <3

    • Claire
      Claire says:

      Hi Cathie,

      I absolutely agree that the guys who have posted are likely to be open to feminine women as well rounded people…(I’m not sure where the reference to objects of fascination comes from though! 🙂 )

      Most of the guys who I’ve spoken to find strong successful feminine women very attractive…the best thing is to ask them – guys? Any thoughts? x

  2. Molly
    Molly says:


    This is so insightful to hear from men the affirmation of what they perceive the true feminine to be. I’ve been working on embracing my feminine side more, and not condescending it in myself or in other women. What great reiteration and support for progressing on that same train of thought.

    Thank you for posting!

    • Claire
      Claire says:

      Hi Molly,

      Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on the post. I agree completely with what you’ve said…it’s reassuring to know that we’re all on the same page!

      Claire x


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