I don’t know about you…but my journey of experiences with other women has been an interesting ride.
Having been bullied by girls at every school I ever went to, I found it incredibly difficult to trust, rely on, open up to or really connect deeply with other women.
I’d learned through school that the girls (and guys) around me were my competition. We were always been scored and compared to each other. Who was the best in the class? Who came first? Who was better than me? Which led to us constantly judging ourselves against everyone else.
Were women your competition?
Then came the teenage years…and the onslaught of the media through magazines, TV and film. Everywhere you looked people were judging others…especially the women. Who looked better in the same dress? Who had put on weight? Who had cellulite?
Magazine articles such as “New Celebrity Bikini Diets” or “Find out how ________ lost her baby weight in two weeks!” had us reaching for impossible (and often unhealthy) standards…and continually measuring ourselves against the women around us to see if we were ‘winning’ or ‘losing’ in the attractive stakes.
Do you allow other women in?
Every step of the way we were learning to judge others and compare ourselves to them.
We had female friends, of course, but the friendships were often tinged with a hint (or more) of competitiveness.
We wanted to support our friends, to be there for them, to enjoy fun times together…but we also compared ourselves to them and felt bad when we didn’t feel that we measured up.
Only recently I learned that a friend who I negatively compared myself too throughout most of my teenage years, was actually doing exactly the same thing but comparing herself to me in return!
These more masculine traits of judgement, competition and comparison have denied us the gift of real friendship with other women. Without us even knowing it they’ve created barriers, distance and blocks to the kind of connections that are available to us when we take a more feminine approach to friendship.
So today I share with you an unusual suggestion…a suggestion that whoever you are, whatever other elements you’ve included in your unique femininity formula that this is one you definitely add in…
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